I blew it- engaged & DH lost it, left
DH left about a little while ago after getting mad at and mocking me for being disguested that SS17 came home over 20 minutes late (15 minutes late last night), disrespected DH, shut DH down, and went to his room - with ZERO consequences. It's 11:44pm. Always in the past, I've left to get away from angry yelling, but tonight I said "I've HAD it!" and took bedding to go sleep on the couch after SS disrespected the curfew and DH when DD told him he needs to be home on timw or there will be consequences. That's when I snapped and told DH I can't believe he's not going to correct that, and that I can't WAIT to not live like this any more, got a blanket & pillow, and went to the couch. DH then got up, opened SS's door, and raged at him he better start foming home on time (& got more snarky comment from SS) and then yelled at SS "You're destroying my marriage!, and told me on his way out the door thwt I can sleep in my own bed now. Not good. I waited 10 minutes then called DH asking "What the hell?!" but he raged at me so I hung up. Very sad, frusterated, snd concerned for my DH and our marriage. My heart hurts. I am at a loss because I will NEVER be okay with SS ignoring or re-interpreting the few rules we have, and DH doesn't even think SS was disrespwctful.
We go to our 2nd marriage counseling session tbis week. I love DH but based on what I've seen and what I've read here, not gonna get into any real estate commitments until after SS is out (which DH assures me he will be a year from now). I will not live in another home likw this! I really love my DH & hate what his ex, BM of SS17, did to both of them. I think DH is still afraid to "lose" SS by correcting him. I'm clear that I can't change SS but it's also clear it's not okay letting a teenager run the show here. I'm sick about this.