Getting worse... if that was possible
Basically over the whole pandemic issue, and her biological mum working from home and her spending 6 weeks solid with her mum (who has mental health issues and is an absolutely psychopath) my partners daughters behaviour has gotten worse. It's always been pretty bad with attitude and tantrums and kicking off and entitlement but her tantrums have now taken to kicking out at us. Normally when we go to put her on the naughty step she'd lash out but to stop us getting her not directly to kick/hit us. My partner is constantly empty threats and ultimately her attitude has gotten worse. She speaks like 'get me a drink' always forgetting her 'can you get me a drink please?' My partner says he doesn't want to spend his whole weekend telling her off but my argument is if he cared about her then he'd step in as a PARENT and do what the mother is lacking which is discipline. Today when she was having a tantrum because she wanted this specific toy that another child had, and then tried to snatch it which case i lowered my tone and said her name im when my partner went ' i dont need your input, your extra comment wasn't needed' - which is when i snapped that ' no cause you're clearly doing a fantastic job with her behaviour as it is'. I feel constantly on edge when she's around in public waiting for her to have a meltdown. She had a huge meltdown with my in a shop and i felt absolutely embarrassed as everyone was looking at me - i wish i had a massive flashing sign saying 'NOT MINE!'. I've put the hard work in with my daughter and i never have any bad behaviour from her (dont get me wrong, she's not perfect but her behaviour is spot on - and i was a single parent for most of her life so that single mum excuse doesn't work for my partners child's mum). He even said the other day just giving her what she wants that when i said to him not to do it he went 'i cant be bothered to get into it with her' so if he cant be bothered to get into it, how can he say that her mum isnt doing what she should in regards to discipline if he cant be bothered either? I worry that the minute she goes to hit my daughter, i'll lose my rag with her and my partner won't like it. I would never hurt her in anyway as i don't agree with it but i would go absolutely ballistic if she started being physical towards my daughter. I know what the kids needs to stop being a brat, but how can the parents not see it? I would be able to see if my daughter needed guidance in areas and i would work on it. I'm having to deal with a child who is everything i've made sure my daughter isn't. I don't know what else to do when my partner doesn't see his 'angel' daughter does anything wrong. Does anyone have any tips on how i can approach my partner to see it from my point or even tips on what to do when a child starts hitting out?