3 year old autistic step-son, I'm going crazy, HELP!!!!
Today is saturday and my husbands children are coming today. They stay the weekend and then go home. I have a 6 year old step daughter and a 3 year old stepson. I also have a 2 month old son of my own. I do not look forward to the son coming over. I came into his life when he was 8 months old and could tell something was not "right" I guess. He did not smile, coo, laugh, had a flat effect. As he grew he did not like to be touched and seemed not to respond like I have seen other children his age. He is now 3 years old and does NOT TALK! He still acts like a terrible two and when I mean terrible two...he gets into EVERYTHING, does not listen,and obviously don't not communicate well. I get down to his level after asking him to stop climbing the chair to climb over the baby gate to get into the kitchen so he can get into the fridge to grab whatever he likes. He took the shampoo last week and poured it all over the carpet. We have time out for the kids in the corner and that is were i put him but I don't even know if he understood why he was there after telling him many times why he was in time out and he was to stay in time out until i got him (Dad supports me). Several times he tried to sneak out of time out. I hate it and then trying to take care of my two month old, AHHHHH. This 3 year old is still in diapers because MOM won't get on board to help potty train(says "I don't think he is ready"). I told daddy I refuse to change a 3 year old's diaper, I'm sorry it is just so frustrating. He is getting absolutely no help with his autism either. Mom tells dad "well he says some things". Dad told his mom he needs help he only says "eeeee" for eat and "eeeesssss" for please and "mamamamama". Mom has the children during the week. This 3 year old was suppose to start speech therapy in aug. When I asked her how it was going she stated she did have him in it because she was still dealing with the little girls learning problems. My opinion is that she doesn't want to admit that her other child has a problem. When anyone tells her these kids have a problem she takes offense to it and thinks they are saying she is a bad mother. Mind you the mother is 23 years old (dad is my age) and she drank and smoked pot when she was pregnant with the girl and did the same with the boy. She also did crack somewhere in there as well, I think after having the little boy but something tells me it was during the pregnancy as well. Dad keeps trying to get these kids on board but since mom has them more and during the week nothing ever seems to get done. Me being the stepmother don't know what I can do for this child. I go to autistic websites to get ideas. The one main reason she has the children during the week is because she doesn't work and lives with her mom. This allows her to be a full time mom unlike my husband who works tuesday-saturday from 8-5pm and I work 12 hour shifts 60 hours a weekend. I don't know what I can do being the stepmother. It is REALLY FRUSTRATING to take care of this 3 year old and nothing is being done to help him. Getting full custody would be a battle, even to get it during the week. What can I do!!!!