Assulted by Five Year Old
Background: have been divorced for about 3 years and dating a man with a five year old son for about a year. He has sole custody of the boy, there is no mother in the picture. We have been discussing moving in together.
The child is mildly (very high functioning) Autistic. Has a once in awhile meltdown. Also has a once in awhile all out TEMPER TANTRUM unrelated to his Autism (I "think" -- I've done some research and "learned" that a child in an Autistic meltdown won't look to see if you are reacting - but a child having a temper tantrum WILL).
Anyhoo...if you are still reading...thank you.
The other night I was at SO's house - babysitting...while he worked the night shift. Child woke for the day at 4:10 a.m. - he tends to do that. By 4:30 a.m., he was in full meltdown mode - for no reason that I found apparent.
Then...for the first time EVER (although he has done it to his teachers at school) - he spent the next FOUR HOURS hitting me, kicking me, scratching me, biting me, pinching me and spitting on me. I refuse to use physical violence on a child - I could only restrain him and "protect" myself. Indeed, this went on for FOUR HOURS - except once in awhile he would "take a break" from abusing ME...
to climb onto the table, counters, etc. - throw and stomp on the remote control. Put a HOLE in the kitchen wall by slamming a door knob into it, tear apart a magazine, throw books, toys, etc. FOUR HOURS of this.
SO's mother finally arrived to take over (she was LATE so I was LATE for work and couldn't even take a shower because the kid was out of control) and she sort of implied that it was my fault by saying "well I usually make him go back to bed when he gets up that early."
I love my SO and I love the child...but obviously I am rethinking things/having doubts. If this is going to be my FUTURE...and the child can already really hurt me...think what he'll be able to do in a few years...well, I don't want it.
He's in therapy, counseling, behavior modification, on some medication and all that...
Thing is...I don't think this was an "Autistic Meltdown"...he kept looking at me to get my reaction...like when he was throwing books at the wall and I was IGNORING him...he would look back to see what I was doing. So...being a brat??? What???
Like I said - first time this has happened. We have had a very decent relationship prior to this, spend a lot of time together, get along well. I got a call from dad...was I alright and he's sorry, blah, blah, blah...haven't talked with him since...that was Thursday morning.
Just looking for feedback I guess. Anyone have experience with an autistic "step child"? Would you run like the wind? Would you confront the child and try to discuss it? Let me have it kids...looking forward to your replies. Thank you for your time reading.