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Submitted by s2jr on Tue, 07/08/2014 - 12:08am

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Mentally Unfit Biological Parents

I've been with my boyfriend for about two years now. His boys are now 8 and 4 yrs. old. They are very good kids when they are with us and I love them dearly. They also love me very much in return. Their mother is a total nightmare. EVERY SINGLE DAY it's something. She's literally insane...not like, oh yeah that b*t** is crazy.....like, seriously mentally disturbed. Even though I've been helping to parent the boys for almost two years now, she has suddenly decided that she no longer wants me watching them. All of a sudden she "doesn't trust me". She called last wknd trying to order me to wake her four year old up from his naps because "he doesn't take naps at my house!". I'm really tired of my dh "having" to deal with her every single day. We are eyeball deep in their custody battle right now, which has been ongoing for almost a year. The closer things get to coming to a head, the worse she behaves. She was recently picked up for an OWI but she claims it's not a big deal, even though it's her third one. I'm just so tired of dealing with her.

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Submitted by JingerVZ on Tue, 07/08/2014 - 12:35am

You need to have serious boundaries with this BM. If she is truly nuts, a restraining order might be a good idea.

Some people can't accept that the marriage they once had is over and that their spouse has moved on. She has no business dictating to your BF what happens in his house. If you aren't a danger to the kids, she has no right to tell BF who he can have around their kids.

Best advice is to have all comms go through Your BF in writing - there is a record. Only time you take a call is in an emergency. If its a non emergency call disconnect the call- you don't have to speak to her or at least BF doesn't.

With some people, you can't be cordial or mature. Just cut her out of your life. She is BFs problem to deal with- not yours. Support BF but cut out crazy. And seriously get a restraining order if she continues to harrass you- she seems to like trips to the police office.