I wanted to get some input from people dealing with Mentally unfit biological parents. I am new to this and need help of an issues. The eldest child is 11 yr old girl and after every visit, we get an email from the mother blasting me on things that she does not approve of, from clothes, to food etc. The Bio-mom gets all the information from the eldest and who maybe innocently tells her mother about the weekend she had with her dad and step-mom and I bear the grunt for it later through phone calls and messages. Me and my husband are very careful about the convesations me and my husband have infront of the kids, but every other weekend when the kids are with us, we end up getting a phone call hours after the drop off about objection or criticism regarding our parenting.
I dont know how to handle this? Is it wise to have a conversation with the 11 yr old?
Any help on this matter would be incredibly appreciated. .