Hello! I'm newly married to a wonderful man, who has 2 sons (ages 7 and 9) from previous marriage. We get them every other weekend. When they are here, they have free reign of our bedroom (during the day). My husband likes to snuggle with the kids in bed every morning, which I am slighly uncomfortable with as I see the bedroom as a place of privacy. But I don't say anything because it's the weekend and no one has to go to work. This week we have for the whole week. I got up to get ready and the oldest boy came in to snuggle. I told my husband that they had to go snuggle on the couch because I needed to get ready for work. He got super upset by this, which is rare because we generally don't have full blown arguments. I argued that it wasn't unreasonble to have at least 20 minutes of privacy to get ready for work. He threw out that in his last marriage, the kids would always be in his bedroom while he and his ex would get ready for work. I told him that is not how I want things. Needless to say, I left angry, hurt, and feeling disrespected and a little violated that my place of privacy was invaded.
Am I being unreasonable? Or is he? Or is there a compromise to be acheived here that I can't see? I feel like this is something simple that can be resolved. I just never expected him to get angry that I wanted privacy in the mornings to get ready. I am desperately trying to establish a relationship with the kids, and don't want anything to hurt the progress I've made. HELP!