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karjam407's picture

Submitted by karjam407 on Wed, 07/04/2012 - 11:27pm

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Blended Family Issues

So my step-daughters are here for the summer they are 7 and 11. its always nice to have them here. Im just so tired of having to talk to the BM on the phone. She bought the oldest a phone so they can always stay close. I think thats wonderful, however when anything is wrong with one of them they demand that Bm talks to me about it.

I am SOOOOO tired of feeling uncomfortable and weird at my own house because at any minute I may need to talk to BM. She is a little more than out there, and we have so many different opinions on things. I try to remain friendly and the kids think we are BFF at this point. HOW can I make it stop? Is it even possible? Or do I just suck it up... Sorry so long :/

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Submitted by Lou Salome on Thu, 07/05/2012 - 9:31am

I agree with Newwife -- no one can MAKE you talk to BM. Just be busy, very busy. No need to say that you don't want to talk to her, just politely decline.

I'm lucky, the BM in my situation refuses to speak to me for any reason ever.

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Submitted by Freedom2005 on Thu, 07/05/2012 - 10:09am

I can also agree. Unless she suspects abuse, there is no reason for her to contact you on how you handle her kids. Besides, if she is adamant about how her kids should be treated, she should go through the kids father!

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Submitted by DavidAPeterson on Tue, 07/24/2012 - 1:48am

Try to explain things to kids and make them more comfortable. As for talking to BM You Yourself can put a limit to it. Be diplomatic because that is the need of time.