Has anyone ever approached BM on their own?
DH and I have been together for 5 years and have a 2 yr old together. His kids visit EOW and the oldest girl (12) has never spoked to me directly and ignores me and the 2yr old like we are not there. My Ex went to Art night to see all of of the art they have done this year and read a paper she wrote about "Family". The paper said she lives with her Dad, Mom and brothers. No mention of her sister or me. None of her friends no about us nor will her mother agree to counceling for her...."she is fine at my house, its your problem". Very sad to say the least.
Apparently, the x-wife has some deep seated resentment and is tranferring it to her daughter. The girl is almost as much of an innocent victim as me and my daughter. I understand this has nothing to do with me and has everything to do with her mother. A very sad situation for the girl. We could be enjoying each other's company and having fun, but this girl is caught in the middle and right now, her loyalty lies with her Mom because of Mom's emotional blackmail. Shame on the X-wife for putting such a burden on her child.
I have an BS (15) who the girl will not engage with - and this is effecting everyone in the house. I dread weekends that she is there because it is so uncomfortable. Events outside the house for his kids when the Ex is around is just horrific, with the dirty looks and angry outbursts. My Son has stopped trying to be her friend and honestly so have I. I am polite and do what I need - however have just disengaged. I have an investment in this relationship with his kids and it is painful to watch them hurting.
My questions is - has anyone experienced a similar situation? And has anyone attempted to approach the Ex to discuss what is going on to try to help the children involved?