Fiance is backing out because of my son with Cognitive Disorder. Help Please.
Im a single dad with full custody of my 2 boys. Have been since 2000. My ex does not pay support. She drank while pregnant, behind my back with my second son. He has whats called Fetal alcohol effects. Its a cognitive disorder. Learning is slow, social skills are delayed, but orally hes a brilliant kid. He has a heart of gold, and loves God and wants to live for him. He sees his dad leading single parent groups and all the "divorce recovery" classes i went to and helped lead in my church. Hes a good kid. just slower.
I met a beautiful woman that i actually knew since 1st grade about 1.5 yrs ago. I asked her to marry me not too far back, and now I feel shes trying to sabotage the relationship, because she does not want to commit to a marriage that may have my son around the house longer than normal. She thinks that hes going to live with us for life, and she doesnt feel comfortable with that.
Heres our last text conversation. Hers then my reply.
Her: Again, God can heal. (**My sons name**) capacities have been explained to you. Those with special needs learn compensatory skills to help them. The reality is he is limited and if this was all something he could overcome he wouldn't have a diagnosis that he does. I hope you understand that non of my words are to come across as hurtful. We are not on the same page regarding this and that's not bad, we each have a right to our opinion. The differences between our perce ption of reality is my greatest concern and why I don't think things will work out between us.
Me: I'm sorry u feel that way. I'm goin2continue praying4U. 4someone where God has given many talents&gifts2teach&help those who R challenged, it breaks my heart2CUof all people even thinking of walking away&the chance to become a true team together4God4life. I'm not dumb. It could mean adjustment that you just didn't want to compromise. A fear of the unknown. Statisticians and doctors are human. God made (**My son**). (**My son**) is not a threat. He's a good kid, with a heart of gold, that never had a mom to talk to about daily life. Part of a healthy relationship includes comprises, acceptance, and unselfishness. I engage with (**her kids names**) and (**name**) a lot, and I love those boys, as I love you. I genuinely accept all 3 of you. That's what God calls me to do. I may not have shown it 100% of the time, but I kno that's what God wants, and its a goal. I'm asking you to truly seek what is right, in your heart, and I pray that The Holy Spirit comforts you in the direction of Gods Will, not Mine.
ok... am I wrong?