Feel like I'm going insane
I feel like I'm going insane. My husband and I have been together for 2 years...We each have a child each from previous relationships. He a son 6. Me a daughter 4.
We have my daughter mon-fri and my ss 7 days per fortnight (he and his ex have 50/50 care) It has always been this way.
They divorced when my ss was 1 year old. She had an affair.
My husband went to work pt while his son was too young to go to school so he could be a stay at home Dad. He used to live closer to his ex but he rented and when the opportunity came up to buy a home he did. So now they live 45 mins away from each other.
Our school year runs Jan-Dec.
SS went to a pt kindy near his Dads house last year. 2 days per week. The agreement between ex and him was kindy near Dads house 2005, Preprimary near biomums house 2006 and then decide on a permenant school between them for 2007 that he would stay in until high school.
Sept 2005 (ss still in kindy) hubbie informs ex that he is moving to his new house. He asks ex not to pull ss out of school because it is in middle of them both. She refuses and enrols him in school near her for 2006. She agreed that if the travel was a problem for anyone she would change the schools. Well SS is travelling over 2 hours per day Mon, Tue,Wed(including peak hour traffic) and she refuses to change schools.
Her answer is to slap my husband with a court case demanding that he not be moved from the school near her and that she should have full time custody during the week.
SS has a step sister (my daughter) and they have grown incredibly close over the past two years. The ex wants us to have SS on weekends when we don't have my daughter (which she knows) so that they will never get to see one another.... They were both only children and now they have a sibling. It seems cruel to deny them their relationship.
She says that when she has this boy during the week, he will go into day care and that that is better for him than going to school with his step sister and playing with her before and after school.
The legal system says basically that because he is already in this school, the court will probably let him live with his Mum during the week.
I am so upset because he will lose his step sister and also that my husband actually changed his work to pt for several years so that he could be a stay at home dad and now he gets relegated to weekend Dad. She has always put him in daycare, even on days when she wasn't working.
If he stays wth us (which is our case) he will have weeks with his step sister, go to the same school as her, be within walking distance and see his Mum all weekend when she isn't working.
Her case is that he goes with her during the week. into day care from 7am to 5pm. Doesn't see his step sister anymore and only sees his Dad at weekends.
Inside I feel like I'm screaming inside. It doesn't seem fair...Seems like we try to be as accomodating as possible and we get screwed over for it.
Sorry for the rant