the adults in the hands of the SKIDS..it is incredible!!!!
im posting a lot lately..i guess i have some time to think (dangerous stuff
my marriage is not healthy...do you find in your marriage that the Skids became like a taboo subject?. a thing you do not talk about? it is a bit like walking on eggshells when you have something to say...do you relate to that?
i talk to my "normal family" friends and I feel jelaous at what they tell me. they all have very similar issues with thier teens (attitute, entitlement, fits, bla bla) BUT the main difference is that is natural for them to say things like "my daughter has been a real bitch these last months, bla bla) in front of their husbands who usually agree with them or even add some more details to the stories. My point is that is normal..and at NO POINT their marriage in on the line or the family gets divided in two bands, or there are the guilt games, etc.
in hteir families the onyl division that exists is the proper division of "Adults/kids"...that is NORMAL
therefore, my marriage is not healthy, it is very weak because it depends on the manipulation and tantrums of a teenage girl...my God!!! nothing in this world should depend on that, and it never fails to amuse me how two adults that actually love eachother end up fighting and feeling depply hurt, and consider divoerce for the rotten attitude and bad behavior of ..a 12 year old...isnt is something!!?!!?!!?. you know that the ONLY reason that my husband and i fight is this girl, her choices and our reactions to her choices...we act like we dont have power to change that? it almost makes my laugh it is so sad....