Turning blue in the face...
Ugh, I was "holding my breath" cuz ss22 said he was moving out of state in August, only to learn that he is now buying a house less than 30 minutes from our house so he is NOT moving out of state. My husband is off to the rescue to consult him with the purchase of the house and I am SURE that he will help him with renovations. I have enforced 100% disengagement with ss22 for 5 months now because of the disrespect that ss22 shows me (and his father/myhusband enables.) I told my husband that I don't like the "man" he is when he is around ss22 because ss22 gets away with murder. :( And ss22 has taught his new wife to be disrespectful to me, too. My children (25dd and 23ds) don't understand the situation, and think that I am an obstacle to "one big happy family." Now that ss22 is staying in the near vicinity, I think it's time that I inform my children so they understand.
Add to that the fact that my husband planned a vacation with my children and his son (the tickets are already purchased), expecting that would force me to go with them (which I am not), and I am blue-in-the-face pissed! I told him if he ever does anything with my children again without talking to me first, we are done. There is a part of me that thinks I should have already divorced him over all of this crap, but the thought of starting over is overwhelming.
I think I need to be in a support group. I am emotionally exhausted from dea1ing with this!