I shouldn't be surprised!
My father passed away last week after a decline in his health in the last 6 months. My SS34 and SD30 were both familiar with him since he has always been at my home for ALL family gatherings and I have been in their lives for 26 years. My dad was always kind to both of them, never anything negative. I have yet to hear from either of them. I was out of town for a couple of weeks helping my brother care for my Dad who had been on hospice before he died. My DH called both Skids (no answer, he left messages)and told them of his decline and ultimately his passing. My SS34's wife called my cell phone and left a message (I returned her call) as I was still out of town, telling me how sorry she was, however, my SS34 never returned my DH's message personally or called me. The SD30 did return DH's call and told DH she was sorry to hear that. I think my DH is growing numb to their insensativity. When I overcame the shock of losing my father and all that goes with it, I questioned DH about what he thought of the Skids neglegence. I let him know how it hurt me to think they can't call me and atleast extend their condolences. I think he prefers to overlook it and sweep it under the rug, yet again, and can't understand why I don't want to be around them for a rescheduled Thanksgiving dinner. Well, unfortunately, I don't think I can do it anymore. This is to me the ultimate slap in the face. I mean for God's sake, not even a sympathy card, something that even resembles kindness. They have planned a gathering for Dec. 6 since they already have plans for Thanksgiving. I know they plan on being here on Christmas at some point. I don't even know how to treat these two ingrates anymore or if I am just being over sensative considering I am just a STEPMOM and shouldn't have any expectations. Nevertheless, it's very hurtful to me because I am a considerate person, and would treat a friend or acquaintance with more caring. My DH is just quiet when I talk about it, I think he realizes how crappy it is but doesn't want to confront them about it and would rather pretend that it's just an oversight on their part. I feel like I am being pushed into a corner with no option other than to stand up for myself. Am I wrong for feeling this way? I just don't know anymore. I am so TIREDOFIT...!!!!! Any advice/thoughts would be so appreciated. Thanks