So the night before the 'bridal shower conference call' OSD sends me a text message that the call will have to be rescheduled. I ask if it means it's off for the day and she says yes she's had a week from hell. I say I'm sorry to hear that, hope everything's okay.....but of course nothing more from her

I have no doubt we will hear some big news or drama concerning her shortly, but it will come after the fact and second=hand through FIL

I personally don't care about that, the less interaction with her the better, but this really hurts DH.

It's like just recently when we went to one of OSGS's events, FIL mentioned to DH at the event that SSIL's mother was diagnosed with lung cancer, had a procedure done, etc....DH was mortified because he was had been talking with SSIL and knew nothing about it at all. And of course neither did I. We both apologized to SSIL, told him we just found out that very second, and how sorry we were to hear it...it had happened some time ago

DH was livid that no one had bothered to tell him, but then, this is the ploy OSD pulls all the time - she will deliberately withhold information about what's going on in her life, but make sure to tell DH's sister, YSD, and FIL so that DH will absolutely hear about the event, every time, but of course that only makes him aware of the fact that everybody else knew and he/we were excluded from OSD telling him

I think it gives her satisfaction, as she knows it hurts DH....I'm at the point that unless it's very serious, if I wasn't told by her then I simply carry on as if I don't know at all, and don't bother to acknowledge it. I don't give her an ounce of satisfaction in thinking I'm aware info was withheld from us. So if she is expecting a reaction, she gets none at all from me

I also don't bother to communicate anything going on in my life to her, DH really doesn't anymore either, so guess what OSD? it works two ways....!