OSD persists in grossly crossing the Line!
OSD just does not give up! Grrrr!!
So this weekend is the birthday dinner for FIL. OSD is hosting. And she wants everyone to go to see OSGS sports event prior to the dinner.
Next thing I know DH storms into the bathroom when I'm getting ready for work this morning, to tell me we're not to going FIL's birthday dinner on the weekend
I ask why
DH tells me that he was in touch with OSD this morning to find out what time, where, etc.. and he learns that BM will be there too
We have no idea why OSD persists in doing this :? :? :?
When she started inviting BM to events she had invited us to a few years back, it started innocently enough and we were totally cool with it. A birthday party for OSGS for example. No problem. DH & I were always totally polite with BM and the three of us got along absolutely great while there (BM's SO who is OSD's SF didn't go initially as he refused to be anywhere near OSD, their relationship being even worse then her relationship with me)
Then we noticed that BM was also invited to the same sporting events for SGS that DH & I were invited too. Again, no problem we had no issues with it. Eventually BM's SO starting coming too
Then, we noticed that BM was invited to more and more events such as FIL's 80th birthday party - that invite had come from DH's sister. We felt that was inappropriate, but what really crossed the line was the small 'immediate family only' dinner that followed at DH's sister's house. BM was also invited to that, and now DH & I were feeling some boundaries had been crossed
Then there was the family dinner at OSD's place. We expected it to be DH, his father, sister, DH's daughters and his wife as in ME: not ex-wife too! DH decided that time we would just leave right after dinner
Where it truly crossed the line was early this year when OSD asked DH if he could drive her and the baby home from the hospital after giving birth to YSGS. Of course we thought that was great, and just before DH left for the hospital he learned from SSIL that not only was BM at the hospital too, but she was there because she was coming along in the car with DH and OSD for the drive up to OSD's house
DH finally put his foot down and said no to SSIL, he was not comfortable with that. We had learned later that OSD was totally pissed off, and she even withheld OSGS from visiting us the following weekend even though it had been arranged some prior
We figured at that point at least she must have gotten the message, and would stop forcing BM onto us.
But nope. Shortly after that was DH's birthday. OSD (along with DH's sister and BM) arranged for YSD's bridal shower to be held on the same day as DH's birthday, then simply told us that we would be having DH's birthday dinner that evening (and of course BM would be)
This crossed so many lines it isn't funny. From it being totally inappropriate to have BM at DH's birthday dinner, to BM being at any of DH's family dinners, to OSD simply taking it upon herself to TELL us what WE would be doing for DH's birthday
Once again DH had to put his foot down and told OSD that "sorry, but Disillusioned & I have already made plans for my birthday dinner on that day" AND that since YSD was visiting and staying at our house, we were hosting the family dinner there
As you can imagine, OSD was pissed off about that too, and didn't call DH on his birthday or so much as wish him Happy Birthday
But did she get the message?
Here is it, another family event this weekend - FIL's birthday dinner - and OSD once again demonstrated she knows no boundaries and invited BM to this.
So, DH has confirmed with both FIL and OSD that he 'isn't feeling well' and won't be going.
I'm glad he did that, but wish DH would have simply said NO. I wish he would have told OSD that if she persists in crossing boundaries and inviting BM to family events she has no business being at, we won't be going any longer
I seriously don't get this...DH doesn't either, but he was very clear to me earlier today that he is "not happy with OSD" right now