BM seems too interested in my minor bio
My minor bio who is a teen told me that she saw that lady - you know-the one that looks like a bird -at the gym the other day. Her words not mine. I wasn't sure who she was referring to until she explained that it was the woman that used to be married to her father. she then explained that the woman kept staring at her the whole time she was in there. Wherever she went in the gym the bitch kept staring at her.
I don't know if I should be worried or not. This woman has never been very stable. I told my daughter she is to let me know immediately if BM bothers her in any way. I hate to tell my child she can't go to the club to work out with her friends because of this witch. I don't even understand what she is doing on this end of town as they have a club on her end of town. Maybe shes out looking for a man and the higher income neighborhoods are located on my end of town. . I don't think she is stalking my daughter as my daughter goes sporadically. I just prefer that my child be nowhere around her so that the mere sight of her does not hatch any evil ideas in the dried up old bitches head.
It just amazes me that any adult would target a teenager and stare at them intently the entire time they are trying to work out. What difference should it have made to her. My daughter has only told her hello and goodbye. The bitch doesn't even really know her.
Should I be concerned. Would you take any special precautions knowing that none of them are very stable (BM,ss, sd) and that They have admitted that they are jealous of my bio children.
I have nothing to do with any of rhe steps or bm now because of all the garbage they pulled as middle aged adults and they have expressed outrage that I was happy with things the way they were. I admitted that yes I was because it was peaceful not having to constantly deal with the adult temper tantrums. I feel no quilt because they started not speaking to us first in an attempt yo punish their father and get him to give them some of his inheritance from his mother. Keep in mind that BM was in the middle of all of this. Guess they thought they would torment us with their behavior and we would chase after them giving them whatever they asked for - instead we went on with our lives. However I will engage if they in any way bother my children or attempt in any way to drag them into their histrionics.
It bothers me that she has crossed paths with BM though because in the past anytime she runs into me a bunch of crazy has come our way. The mere sight of me seems to set lonely tunes off. .
If it keeps happening then I
If it keeps happening then I think I would take some sort of action. It has to be uncomfortable to be stared at like that but I have a feeling your daughter can handle it.
I do suspect jealousy as the motive, the danger there is letting all the other thoughts flood your mind that prevent you from being in the 'here and now'. Believe me, it happens! Take it as a day by day thing and if it does become troublesome then you might want to consider some sort of report, maybe to the gym owners? How long does a membership last? If it's a high end gym then maybe the BM has a short term membership? I think I'd be telling your daughter not to worry too much about it...there's seriously nothing the woman can do without risk of arrest. It will say a lot for your daughter's strength of character if she is not bullied into leaving or missing workouts because of a deranged woman...seriously!
If your daughter is a
If your daughter is a teenager, perhaps she is old enough to have some of the "history" explained in an age-appropriate way. At one point, I have explained to my eldest (age 13) that the skids don't like me because after a divorce skids just want parents to re-unite and that they saw/see me as standing in the way. Having explained some of the background, you could tell your daughter to "be careful" of this woman and to brush her off should she make any kind of approach, and to always report back to you should something untoward happen.
On another note, what I found quite amusing was in the past months, my son (13 yr old) had contact, through an everyday event, with an aquaintance of SD 32. The aquaintance recognised our surname and asked if he was related to SD to which my son replied "she's my father's daughter". Brilliant!!!