Advice needed please
A couple of months ago I posted a hypothetical about attending BM's funeral. Well, that hasn't happened but there has been a death in the family. Just today, my SD's MIL passed, a lovely woman who has gone way too soon. I could do with some advice here about whether I should attend or not attend the funeral.
Currently only DH sees SD, SSIL & sgkids as they disengaged from me about a year ago, and I from them about 3 months ago. SD's MIL was a really nice person who was always nice to me, yet I only saw her when around SD's family, so haven't seen her for over a year. I would like to pay my respects, but really really don't want to encroach on SD & SSIL's grief. This definitely isn't time for one of my DH's reconcilliation attempts either!
I was thinking of going, sitting up the back, staying out of sight and then sending a text later to SSIL saying that it was a lovely service for his Mom. Thoughts? Thanks in advance.