Adult Stepchildren Not Moving Out, What Do I Do????
Hello to everyone, I really need to get some ideas on handling a situation with adult stepchildren.
My wife has 2 kids from an earlier marriage, in their mid to late 20’s, one of whom has a 3yr. old toddler. They and their respective spouses had previously been living in another state for pretty much their entire lives.
A long time ago, they all decided to move here to Florida, as the opportunities were better in their fields of work. I own a couple of apartments nearby, and offered them to my step-kids to live in as temporary housing, so they could all get situated.
There is no written lease. I had simply requested that the kids cover my expenses (taxes, utilities, etc.) until they found jobs and decided that they wanted to stay in Florida. All 4 kids have since found full time employment in their respective fields, and are earning pretty good money.
The amount that they are paying in rent each month is at least half, or in some cases a third, of what these apartments go for. The whole idea was for them to save money until they can move into permanent housing.
My wife and I also babysit our grand son for free 5 days a week, so the one step daughter and husband can maintain a full time work schedule.
After 2 years of this, I believe that I've done enough to help my step kids. None of the other bio or step parents involved have done anything to help out. It's all been on my shoulders.
A big part of this problem is that my wife does not want her kids to move. I feel this is simply not beneficial for anyone involved. I have no way of creating a united front with my wife, and this entire situation has put our marriage at great risk.
So finally today, I gave them written notice that I'm selling the apartments in 6 months, and said it was time for them to move on.
This didn't go over very well. Get this excuse......they said that they could not possibly find the permanent home that they want in 6 months. Believe me, there are thousands of great real estate deals here in Florida. Some sellers are literally giving the houses away.
My wife is very angry too, accusing me of throwing the kids out in the street, wants a divorce, etc. It's at the point now where if this costs me my marriage, so be it. I'm standing my ground.
Bottom line, I know that if I had never said anything about this situation, it would have gone on forever. I'd really appreciate any thoughts, ideas, or suggestions. Am I doing the right thing?