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so BM has skid seeing psychologist without consulting DH and dr is 4 hours away, she insists that dh and I take skid. We however are unable to do so, as much as we would like we just can't afford a trip like that, plus taking off work without pay. We agreed that when we could we wouldn't care a bit to do so. BM keeps send DH text stating that his is taking skid.
You say your DH can't afford
You say your DH can't afford the time off of work. Are you also saying that even if he COULD do it, this childs Father doesn't want to be involved? That's pretty damn sad, actually.
Where in the world did you get that from? Part of "reading between the lines" I suppose? It's wrong to put words into peoples' mouths and try to make it seem like they or their spouse is a bad parent. Dangerous ground to tread on. And, in general, not nice.
I thought I just posted on
I thought I just posted on this? It's not showing... Hmmm.
Yep, I found it.... Guess one
Yep, I found it.... Guess one on forum, and one on blog. Thanks echo...
Just because he doesn't want
Just because he doesn't want to make regular trips to a doctor that is FOUR HOURS AWAY some of you think the father does not want to be involved with his child?
This must be more of that let's put the kid on a pedestal crap. I am sure there are therapists closer than 4 hours away.
My thoughts exactly.
My thoughts exactly.
I agree w/ sandy1234! Four
I agree w/ sandy1234! Four hours is a long way to drive. There aren't any other psychologists closer???? I wouldn't do it either. I'd tell BM since she took it upon herself to have SD start seeing the psychologist, then she can take it upon herself to drive her there. I'd tell her if she finds someone closer, then you'll take her, but 4 hours????? Come on. That's just stupid.
And is that 4 hours one way? So BM expects you to drive 8 hours roundtrip for SD to see a psychologist? Real smart.
Maybe the psychologist will do it by phone or skype. You never know. Maybe DH should call and discuss the situation w/ him. The man/woman is a psychologist because he/she wants to help people He/she might be willing to do this.
Just thought of something. Is
Just thought of something. Is there something specifically wrong w/ SD? Could this psychologist specialize in certain disorders and maybe he's the best in the state? Other than that, I can't see how someone would drive FOUR hrs to see him/her.
There's nothing specifically
There's nothing specifically wrong, that a psychologist near home can't take care of. BM treats skid (9) like an adult, adult conversations, adult finances, things a child shouldn't hear or be involved in.
Unless this psychologist has
Unless this psychologist has been picked for a very rare condition of the child I think for her to pick someone 4 hours away without even consulting DH and then not being able to take him herself is simply wrong.Although I don't doubt that on the surface she thinks about what is best for her son I can imagine that BM tries a bit of a power play, manipulating the ex etc.I would have consulted my ex about decisions like this first.
No matter if this person is a
No matter if this person is a specialist or scheduling a long way out, I'm sure your BM is capable of using a calendar and thus able to schedule the child on HER time rather than on her FATHER'S time. Especially when it is so far away.
^^^THIS! We did that whole
^^^THIS!
We did that whole dance with SD14 and BM NEVER had to take her to therapy (unless she herself was also going, ON OUR DIME of course) and the therapist's office was 4 miles away!
The therapist said once a week visits were necessary, so BM would have to take SD half the time. WE paid for everything, all BM had to do was take her once for an hour every other week. She flat out refused, so DH had to drive 5 miles to pick SD up, take her to therapy, drive her back home and then come home. He did it for a year until we discovered SD was only using the therapist for attention and sympathy and LYING the entire time!