When husband doesn't "defend" you...
Okay, I promise...not "wallowing in the past" but, having found this great forum and FINALLY having a safe outlet...just going back over some things and wondering...
have any of you ever hand an incident where your husband should have/could have come to your defense and didn't?
Here is ONE example from my life:
EONS ago I was pregnant and had a miscarriage. The skids' bm told them the REASON I had a miscarriage is because I DESERVED IT because the baby could not possibly have belonged to DH because he couldn't have more children.
COMPLETELY UNTRUE OF COURSE...and dh told the boys it wasn't true. Then I said "aren't you going to call her on this?" Well...noooooooo, he didn't want to "upset the boys."
OMG...REALLY? As if the kids weren't already upset by what their mother had told them and he just let her get away with it. I'm sorry but he owed it to HIS KIDS to call her on telling them such an upsetting LIE and he owed it to me, HIS WIFE to call her on it.
Nope...nothing. And so it went for YEARS until I finally got OUT...but I feel like I'll be "in recovery" FREEKING FOREVER!!!