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Unbelievable!!!

WifeVersion2.0's picture

DH finally had a mediation scheduled today to reduce his CS. He was laid off over a year ago and hasn't found anything since then. He held off for too long (in my opinion) in modifying the CS because he was hoping that something would turn around in the job market but it hasn't. So, he and BM both received notices to be there today and lo and behold guess who DOESN'T SHOW UP!

So, the CS rep calls BM and tells her she is supposed to be there (it happens to be less than 2 miles from her house) and the following conversation takes place:

REP: Calling to remind you, need you to come in, etc.

BM: I can't make it today, I can't take off.

REP: Oh, so you are working now? (BM doesn't work and lives off of CS)

BM: Well, yes, I'm a Stay At Home Mom and my children are out of school today so I can't take off from my job as a 'mom'.

:sick:

OMG...REALLY? Pleeeeaaasssee! My skids are 13 & 12, and BM's $Baby is 2. She had no problems leaving all 3 kids home alone while she goes "shopping" or for the past few weekends so that she could "go to church" and pretend to be a Christian woman but she can't leave them for an hour and drive 2 miles and handle her damn business?

UGH! So, now they have rescheduled it for two weeks out so that Miss SAHM can plan to take an hour or two off from her 'mom' job. Sometimes I seriously HATE this woman.

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skylarksms's picture

Really - I am pretty sure she had as much notice as you guys did to come to the hearing...

wonderful court system... :sick:

VAStepMom's picture

Doesn't it infuriate you? I would be livid. For you to take time out to be there, and for her to blow it off. They should have approved his reduction and that's that.

WifeVersion2.0's picture

I soooooo wish that is how it worked here! Not only would his have been reduced because she didn't show up but I have an open case to increase CS with my ex and he didn't show up either....it would have been nice if it had gone up anyway!

It's like there is no motivation for these people to do the "right" thing.

MARLA_823's picture

I agree they should have just reduced it! Obviously it wasn't an important enough meeting for her!

WifeVersion2.0's picture

Honestly I'm just tired of doing the "right" thing and still getting the short end of the stick while other people get to skirt the system and their responsibilities with no consequences whatsoever!

We have lots of court stuff going on right now. DH changed visitation with BM and then the CS Review that was supposed to happen today. I have an open CS modification with my ex and in retaliation to that he's petitioned to modify custody of our son. So there's lots of activity and trips to the family court house for us on both sides lately and I swear we are the only ones that are ever where we are supposed to be when we are supposed to be there with the correct documents to proceed. This whole process (on top of the stress of DH still being unemployed) is really just stressing me out!!

I told DH today that if she screws with the next mediation date that SHE scheduled today that her invitation to go trick-or-treating with the kids and us as one big happy family might just be rescinded! }:)

mom2five's picture

I would have been beyond livid! She doesn't even work outside the home, for heavens sake.

What happens if she pulls this stunt again? Surely she can't just keep refusing to show.