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WifeVersion2.0's picture

BM has been asking for our address the past few weeks. She texted SS (who lives with her) and he didn't know it, she texted DH and when he didn't respond fast enough she texted SD (who lives with us) then she texted DH back saying Nevermind so I'm assuming SD gave her the address.

Not that it's really a secret, we've lived here for over 2 years now and BM drives to our house at least 4-8 times a month to pick-up/drop-off SD. In fact, she was just here Sunday. I guess it's too difficult to look at the huge numbers on the front of the house and then read the street sign on the corner to put two and two together on her own.

So, anyone want to guess how much this is going to cost us? I'm pretty sure she's not planning on sending us a Christmas card! Ugh!

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WTF...REALLY's picture

Lots of court fun ahead....merry fricken Christmas. What do you think she wants?

WifeVersion2.0's picture

I'm sure she wants what most deadbeat BMs who live off of child support and government handouts for years at a time want......more money.

It's been 3 years since we were last in court, I'm sure she wants to see how much more she can get for these last 2 years that DH has to support her lazy ass.

WTF...REALLY's picture

Bummer!

LuluOnce's picture

We are just starting the court process, despite the fact FDH and BM have been divorced for almost three years. FDH was pretty much just giving her what she wanted; then she wanted even more and he finally said no. So here we are. I have no clue what happens next. I am still so new to this, I would have never made the connection that her interest in your address meant court action. How many times have you been through "the court process"? How many times do I have to go through it before I know what's coming? Lol.

I'm sorry about your greedy BM.

WifeVersion2.0's picture

Good luck with your court battle. I've found having it all on paper is a huge relief in the long run. Hopefully it will help settle things for y'all.

The step kids are both high school age, and DH and BM have been divorced more than 10 years. DH and I have been married almost 6 years. 3 years ago we were in court because SD decided she wanted to live with us primarily. Of course BM wouldn't agree so during negotiations DH said that BM wouldn't have to pay him CS for SD and he'd continue to pay what he'd been paying for both kids to BM for CS with the caveat that $200 of that amount (which is about all BM would have been ordered to pay since she doesn't work) went towards arrears that DH owed from when he was out of work.

She agreed and my guess is now that the arrears are paid off and her support just dropped about $200/month she thinks she can get more. I don't think she will this time around because DH isn't going to waive support for SD this time. So with what he would owe her minus what she would owe him the amount is within $25 of what we already pay her. And that's not factoring in that she should also pay insurance for SD since she's the NCP. It also doesn't factor in the $800+ she owes us for her 1/2 of out of-pocket expenses for glasses, contacts, medical visits, etc.

It's more of a hassle factor than anything. I can't think of any reason (other than court) that she would need our address. The school already has it, she doesn't provide insurance for the kids, or any other financial support for that matter. And like I said, I doubt she's sending us Christmas cards or gifts. Smile