33 Year Fit - sorry so long!
Just getting yet another thing out of my system - hope it's okay - cheaper than therapy.
Some of you may know that my (soon to be ex - I LOVE typing that!) dh bought my skid and his wife a house AGAINST MY WISHES and better judgement a few years back.
Skid had been nagging daaaaadddddyyyyy to buy him a house for YEARS. One day, about 6 years ago, we were having a "family thing" at our house. Other ss (who I LOVE) and his wife and kids were visiting from out of state, both of "our" kids were there, everyone having a nice time.
Skid (drama freak that he is) said to dh that he needed to talk to him outside about something important. Of course it was another whining session about why dh JUST HAD TO buy them a house. Basically, dh told skid that I was against it so he couldn't do it but that he would "work on it and see what we can do."
That wasn't good enough for the CHUCKLE HEAD and he got FURIOUS - accused his dad of putting ME FIRST (ummmmmmm, yeah...what would be wrong with that???) and put his family in his (paid for by dh) vehicle, ranting and raving the whole time. Told his father that if he EVER wanted them to speak to him again or if he EVER wanted to see his grandchildren again - he would have to buy them a house. (I'm not making this up folks - I WISH I was!).
Then he peeled out of the driveway, burning rubber and kicking up stones. OMG! So I said to my older ss (the one I LOVE) that I was sorry his brother left because of me. SS replied that it was NOT me that made his brother leave, he left of his own free will and I should not apologize (see why I LOVE him? He's "normal.")
Folks I had gotten all the information for skid and his wife about a program we have locally that helps low income people purchase homes. You go to classes, get help with cleaning up your credit, and the program GIVES YOU $4 FOR EVERY $1 YOU SAVE TOWARD A DOWN PAYMENT!!! I wanted skid and his wife to go through the program so they could say they DID IT and have something to be PROUD of.
Anyway, not to make a long story longer - I ended up moving out about a year later and then DH bought them a house with MARITAL MONEY. My lawyer told me that I could have gone to court and a judge would have seen red over that one - but you know what? I don't even f'n care anymore - so I didn't.
DH actually told me that "no son of mine has to sit though those classes when I'm capable of helping him." DEFINE cabable buster becuase you have MAJOR debts of your own that aren't paid. Just another example of his guilty parenting - taken to the extreme.