I'm a new stepmom and find myself constantly struggling with emotions about my situation. My children are 20 and 16 and have a wonderful father whom, even after divorce, I am great friends with. MY fiancée is younger than me and has a three year old. He of course has much more inaction with his ex. MY problem is that #1 his child is brat. My fiancée and the child's mother don't believe in alot of disipline. The child has horrible behavioral issues and is on probation at daycare and adult friends have commented on his poor behavior. Anytime I bring it up, I'm the bad guy. #2 the child's mother is aweful. The child comes dressed in rags and hasn't been bathed. She has a six figure job and is always dressed to the nines. She also has the manners and mouth of a trucker which is being passed to her son. It honestly disgusts me. My fiancée and her text constantly and it drives me crazy. I'm struggling to want to be around the child and find myself upset that the man I love had a child with this horrible person on purpose (fertilty drugs etc).