Smoking and Skids? Anyone?
I take care of my diet and I exercise regularly, I care for my health, but I am a smoker. I know it is not healthy but it is just what I have done for years. I smoke out of doors only! Even if I go somewhere I am permitted to do so indoors I do not do it around any kids. My DH hates it always has, but knew I did it when we met. I am from a country where it is more accepted to smoke than here. I have quit when I was pregnant, my ex was a smoker too. He quit when I was pregnant and never started back up, good on him. But I started back up during my divorce from him. I have quit one thousand times or more. BMs both know I smoke, kids have eyes and ears, they know I do it. BM1 tells me all the time to quit, I just tell her I know and I will someday. She knows I do not smoke in the home. Her issue is the examples for kids and the health effects to myself, tells me all the time, DH had a heart attack and it hurt the kids to see him like that, do I want to be next etc. I get it. BM2 complains that her kids both use inhalers, true. But they are also both obese for their height and age etc. Their doctors have said they are obese. They do not like to work or move and they eat junk all the time in their home. She complains all the time that the kids stink like smoke when they return from our care. I do not believe it. My DH does not smoke and he swears they do not smell nor does my home. I have a spot in the back yard I go to, it has a an outdoor gas fire place for warmth. I turn it on, smoke and talk on phone. Who should care? My dd knows I smoke and it is bad etc. BM2 who I do NOT speak to at all, DH has emails only with her, complains I am bad mother to my dd, bad example to her kids and am endangering her kids by smoking even out of doors at our house. My dd's dr knows I smoke outside and is fine with it but does say quit. DH tells me to quit and also complains I smoke way more than normal when all kids are here.....really? Wonder why that could be??? You get what I am referencing I am sure of it. We are due back in court this winter, DH wants custody of BM2 kids, will this hurt or help or what? We know BM2 used to smoke in doors when kids were younger but has quit. When I come in I wash my hands, and take my coat off and put it in my own coat closet in great room. During summer the younger kids (BM2 kids and my dd) are forced to go out with me most of the day while DH works, if we are at home for the day, then the kids swim, get some fresh air and use bikes, power wheel cars, scooters, chalk, bubbles. I do smoke in front of them. I am old enough to do so and my dr and my own mom knows is what I tell them. I tell them I will quit and it is bad for me etc and the best way to stop is NEVER start etc. Anyone else hear about smoking from BMS? Anyone had it brought up in court? By they BM2 stinks like poop and food and sweat and so do her two kids, it is documented by sources other than us as well. Isnt smelling like shit worse? And more socially gross? Advice please! And not just "quit now" I already get that! Thank you! :O