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Riding daddy's lap like a pony age11?

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Submitted by SweetMom on Mon, 01/19/2015 - 12:17am

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My sd11 is a very smart girl. She demands to be treated like a grown girl. That is understandable. Her BM gave all her dolls to good will. So she is a young lady now with immaturity ways, of coarse. I try to watch what I say because it gives BM a reason to call my DH if I say something wrong. This is the same lady that freaks if we watch anything other than pg13 movies but yet she can watch that movie ' Next Friday' with her. So to get to the point. I was sitting on DH knee giving him a kiss on cheek and talking about plans. Sd11 wants to sit on The other knee so she does. We are both sitting on each side and she says," giddy up daddy." I say to her that that sounds inappropriate now that she is 11. Her mouth drops. Did I that sound pervert? Maybe. Was I out of line? I'm not sure and will we get a call from BM? Yes. I've heard worse.

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Submitted by SweetMom on Mon, 01/19/2015 - 2:10am

Thanks

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Submitted by unluckytwin on Mon, 01/19/2015 - 6:54am

Yeah, DH should be ignoring any communication from BM of that nature--she gets no say what happens in your home and it's not like you're beating the kid. And 100% when you're being physically affectionate with your DH, there is ZERO ROOM for her to come in and touch him at the same time unless it's a rare celebratory group hug or something. Yuckity yuck.

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Submitted by SweetMom on Mon, 01/19/2015 - 10:15am

I was on his right knee talking and she came up and helped herself on his left knee and said giddy up daddy , like a baby would do. It was innopropriate and I reminded her of that. Next time I'll be better prepared In the event she tries to get between us like that again.

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Submitted by katielee on Mon, 01/19/2015 - 11:04am

It's appropriate for a WIFE to sit in her husband's knee. It is NOT appropriate for an 11 year old daughter to sit on her daddy's knee and want to play horsey like a four year old. I would call that a Mini-Wife... a little girl who wants to compete with her stepmother and be her equal. She needs to be taught her place, and it is NOT on daddy's knee.

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Submitted by katielee on Mon, 01/19/2015 - 11:21am

Then he needed some words said to HIM the next time the husband and wife had a moment of privacy.

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Submitted by luchay on Tue, 01/20/2015 - 6:33am

And FFS NOW I have the image of ex_OH and SD14 spooning on the couch to go to sleep.... like I needed that before I head to bed!

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Submitted by luchay on Tue, 01/20/2015 - 6:32am

:jawdrop: :jawdrop:

nope.

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Submitted by SweetMom on Tue, 01/20/2015 - 5:53pm

I don't have a daughter so I cant answer. I have a special needs son that is kinda childlike like a manchild. Hugging me is fine and a pat on the back but at his age I let him know it doesn't look good for him to put his arm around me in public and if we are at home I let him hug me briefly. Love and affection should be between husband and wife, sorry but that is the way I see it. I never hugged up to my daddy or mom growing up. I do remember being around 4 or 5 and fighting to sit on my dads lap with my sister but as we got in school, that shit stopped. When we are in public, I do not get in the way of my SD11 grabbing her dads side arm and walking. Maybe by her 13th birthday I will stress to my husband in a private conversation that it looks like they are boyfriend or girlfriend. I will have more time to think from now to them how I can word it with you gals help, that's why I am here.