Question regarding ADHD, Lying, and school issues
My SO son "mark" is in middle school. Mark was never what you would call a overachiever and basically just did what school work he had to to get by. He is average intelligence and due to his ADHD has had a IEP(?) program in school since 3rd grade for extra help. Its always been a struggle to get Mark to do his HW but this year its been really bad. He fights/argues with both BM and SO and procrastinates starting his HW. He will "act" like he's totally clueless on how to do 70 percent of his HW so he can't do it. Since SO was NOT in the class he can't help Mark figure it out most of the time. SO will have to call his teacher to ask her to either explain it to Mark again or/and explain it to him so he can help Mark get it done. This has caused Mark to fall behind in school. SO has had Mark stay after school two days a week to try and catch up. The teacher just informed SO that Mark when he stays after to make up work he just pretends to be doing school work but is not. The teacher also informed SO that she has a number of times explained the work to Mark but unless she sits right there with him through the whole prosess he won't do anything. She believes he is faking not knowing what to do. Mark will also lie when SO asks him if all his HW is done.
From what I read about ADHD kids have a issue FINISHING HW/school work BUT Mark has more of a issue STARTING the work all together. He really needs someone to hold is hand through the whole thing and walk him through step by step or he won't do anything. Even doing this its a fight to get him to do anything. Is this normal for ADHD kids or is he just being lazy because he does not want to do it?