OMG I think I'm drunk, and it's fan-friggin-tastic
All I tell people these days is my life is about swimming in a pile of shit, on top of a pile of shit, on top of a pile of shit. Seeing as my typing is still legible, I can tell I'm in that good place...and that's where I'd like to stay right now.
So today was a tremendously fun day in Poly's house. Let's see, after dealing with DH's diagnosis of lymphoma, and SS13 wanting only to live with us....my mother decided to pile on a guilt trip because we had the audacity to start a web donation page for the unpaid leave DH will need to recover. SO. MUCH. FUN.
THEN....
BM starts in with her shit about SS13 living with us, because she can't handle his declarations that she's schizo (he's probably correct) and demanded him back today after not having him for 4 months, and abusively txting DH...so I took the phone from him and told her to knock it off. So she hates my ass, and said I have no right to hold SS against her will (no shit Sherlock) and that she'd pick him up. I (rightfully) told SS13 she's his problem, we're busy fighting cancer. He went with her for the day, and then lied and told her a friend was sleeping over tonight so he had to come back. Dumbass told us he lied to her. So, we told him unless he can give us a reasonable explanation why we shouldn't pack him up right then and there and bring her back, he described quite lucidly his toxic relationship with her....not hard to believe...she's quite toxic indeed. So the deal is he's calling his law guardian first thing in the morning and getting this all settled on paper so she has to stop harassing us about it. Not our fight, it's his. We'll see how that goes.
In the meantime, DH is sleeping in the family room on the couch again tonight for comfort, and I really miss sleeping next to him, but it's the only way he can be comfy with the chemo side-effects. I'm just sad. I know it will pass, but tipsy is where I'd like to stay for now.
Sorry for the profanities...but I just can't deal with my life sounding so much like a LMN movie, so I've upped it to HBO. I hope this was legible. Just need some love right now. 
A friend of mine is in her
A friend of mine is in her late 80s. She dealt with lymphoma 20+ years ago. One of my cousins had it about 18 years ago and is doing great also. Best wishes to your DH.
Thank you so much. It's just
Thank you so much. It's just upsetting that I take a step back from this and think "what kind of asshole thinks it's appropriate to give someone with cancer a hard time? What the hell?"
So the sad part about that is
So the sad part about that is DH has been snoring so loud it wakes me out of a sound sleep, and I end up leaving the room anyway...so he's nipping it in the bud. He's just so giving, even when he's suffering. I love him so much and wish I could help him more, but he wouldn't have it any other way.
Cuz I SO want to deal with a
Cuz I SO want to deal with a belligerent 13 year old while my husband battles cancer....yeah...that makes so much sense you effing psycho. (Sorry....just had to let that one out)
We told him not only was is
We told him not only was is not okay, but it really put us in a shitty position. So the options we left him were to come clean with mom, or come clean with the law guardian...he chose the law guardian. How sad is that? In part of the extremely long txts to DH, BM expressed severe concern that now SS is lying to her...like it's something he's never done before. I was thinking "Bitch, BOTH boys lie to you regularly, whenever they tell you how awful I am. In fact everyone probably lies to you to appease you. you're like the angry fire god that needs sacrifices thrown in a volcano to make sure you don't erupt....cancer is easier to deal with than you are." Think I should tell her that?
But it would be
But it would be fuuuuunnnnn....maybe it'd make her cry. She's so delusional. If he hates me so much, how can she justify the fact that he's preferred to live under the same roof as me the past 4 months as opposed to hers? I can't be WORSE than her, now can I?
Well she already went nuts
Well she already went nuts when I had to bring him to the hospital for suicidal thoughts. He didn't want her knowing, let alone having her there with him....and who's the one that made sure she knew and talked him into it? THIS GAL!
Thank you. I do every day.
Thank you. I do every day. And massage his head, and floss his teeth and lots of other things. There's nothing like watching the love of your life have to suffer for so long. The chemo is just a new brand of suffering, he's had severe pain for years.
I'm *almost* indifferent to
I'm *almost* indifferent to it. Ever see the movie mommy-dearest? That's BM....like not even exaggerating there. That's her. Child Protective Services would not remove Joan Crawford's children from her today. Know how I know? Because we're living it. I agree, there's too much room for him to manipulate here, which is why he needs to settle this on paper. He thinks the kid route of lying to her and what she doesn't know won't hurt anything, and it'll keep her quiet is the best way...and we were like 'Yeah, but this isn't kid world my dear. You have to stop telling her you hate me, because it just puts her in protective mama place, and she lashes out, and demands you back. you have to be honest." I honestly think sending him back to her would be really really bad for him...like he would refuse to go back to school, he's already depressed...and it's bad. I know, I have WAY too much on my plate to even consider any of that...and I told SS that DH is my priority, so if he gives us any shit, back he goes. But now that BM is giving us shit, unless SS takes care of this, the correct way, back he goes.
I'm thinking of a new tagline
I'm thinking of a new tagline (this is As good as it gets)
"Go sell crazy someplace else, we're all stocked up here."
So, BM is taking SS9/10 away
So, BM is taking SS9/10 away on a camping trip for their summer vacation and also SS9/10's birthday. Everything was going swimmingly until DH had the nerve to get cancer and become too sick on occasion to take SS13 to the doctor or deal with stressful txts from BM. So she decided with 1 days notice SS13 is going with her. Again, put this on SS13, who told her there is no way he's spending 5 days in the woods with her with no escape when they haven't spent more than 5 hours together in the past 4 months. He called his law guardian (who's in BM's pocket) who said she'll contact BM's attorney and ours. I told our attorney what was going on, and said SS13 doesn't have to go if he doesn't want to. I told BM it would be best because all he'd do is make everyone on the trip miserable the entire time, and ruin his brother's birthday, and all she cared about was whether it was me doing the txting or DH.
DH's white cell count didn't go down as much as his oncologist would like so he wants to up the frequency and dosage of his chemo. I told our lawyer BM needs to be controlled. Like zero contact, straight curbside pickups only. Both boys have cell phones to talk to their parents, so there really is no need at this point for BM to speak to either of us.