New to this site
hi everyone. I’m new to here, but not new to being a stepmum. My stepdaughter will be 13 very soon. I don’t recall that it has been particularly awful over the last few years, but recently I’ve been having feelings towards my stepdaughter that make me feel uncomfortable - like resentment and major dislike. I am married to her dad and we have our own son who is nearly 4. Her mum and my husband were never in a relationship really. SD is the result of a one night stand. On the whole, the relations between both families is good, but I’m struggling with my SD as she gets older. She’s very tall and starting to be very opinionated on many topics that I find to be way too mature for her. Transgender issues, being non-binary etc. We get into conversations in general and then she gets all defensive about her dad and I having a different opinion to hers. She then shuts the conversation down quite rudely. I try to discipline her, but I feel like I’m treading on eggshells because she’s not my blood daughter. In general I don’t like her opinions, don’t like her cheeky tone and way and feel like DH never steps in to discipline her. He wants her to start coming to stay with us more often but the idea of spending weekends with her depressed me as she never engages with me. She’s not particularly friendly, barely has two words to say in answer to any question I pose and just sits on her phone looking miserable. I don’t look forward to seeing her, I don’t like the way she is and I’m scared I’m stuck with this and that she will only get worse as she gets older. I’m sure you have heard this all before but it feels good to vent here, so thanks for letting me!