NCP Medical Info
So the BM in our case has been hounding my husband for his family medical history/ethnic background for over a year. A little history for those who don't know, he currently has zero contact with the affair child, the BM has sole legal/physical, he pays out $1400 a month in CS (yes, ouch), and has repeatedly asked for no contact due to her making false allegations of hostility/harrassment (kinda hard to be harrassing when there is NO contact), has threatened to make his life a living hell, and has called my place of employment. And that's just the tip of the iceberg--it's all a huge nightmare.
We suspect there is something wrong with the child, and when my husband has inquired she just tells him that the child's medical information is private and confidential and none of his business. Even went as far as lied to the insurance company (at least we suspect) and had my husband blocked from receiving EOB's and making inquiries-the child is on my health insurance and has the state as the secondary. In other words, the child's health is apparently 1 big secret. All we know is that he was about 5-6 weeks premature and she was a smoker (cigs and pot and who knows what else).
Getting to the point of this post...she has threatened to have my husband brought to court to get him to fill out a family medical history form and ethnicity breakdown. She actually originally wanted a copy of his medical records!!! His family doesn't want her to know all their business because she cannot be trusted. He doesn't want her to know all his business. And if it's the form I'm thinking we filled out when we were pregnant with our first, it's a 3-page, pretty invasive form. His lawyer told her if there is something wrong with the child to have the Dr. call my husband and it can be handled confidentially so it's not like he didn't offer a solution; she said no and is still threatening to have my husband brought back to court to get it filled out.
My question is has anyone gone thru this before? She pulled the HIPAA card to block everything about the child, isn't my husband afforded the same right? We are concerned if there is something wrong with the child but at the same time the BM is psycho and we fear what she will attempt to do with the info. Is there a way he can request the info be put into a separate file for the Dr. to see/review and block her from the info? Would the courts make her disclose what is wrong with the child in order to have cause for my husband to disclose his medical info? Can't the Dr. just ask what is relevant to the child's care/issues/diagnosis/etc.?
Sorry if it's an odd question, and thank you for your time to answer! This is all just an on-going mess and I have learned a lot from this site!
Oh and in case you are wondering, 4 different lawyers quoted my husband almost $10K to try and get custody changed, which we don't have now.