We have had to close our business and my SO, who works full-time at it, is more productive than yours. He's building a garden, a shed, doing all the work to give me a break as I'm still working my stressful job. This is what partners do. Help each other out. Your DH is selfish and childish. I would train him and leave him a list of things he must accomplish while you are working all day. A real conversation needs to happen between the two of you - you should not be shouldering this all alone. 

I would put this in an email and send it to him. Start the conversation. 

And after the conversation is started, I would drive him to the bank to get some money out of savings. You should not have to cover all of the bills.

Since you're the owner every day can be take your kids to work day.  They can be in your office on their laptops or in an adjoining room doing their schoolwork while DH stays home and "takes care" of his kids.  Tell DH that you're bringing your two to work with you to reduce his stress and help him focus on helping his kids.  Make sure to only take his whiny calls when you are on break or not at all. "I have five minutes hun, what's up?" "Gee honey, sorry we couldn't talk, I was on the work line all day." 

If this could be done safely and in a way that isolated your kids away coworkers and others this could be a win win. But if you do this don't you dare bring DH's kids with you too!  

Do you normally have an agreement on how much each of you contributes to household expenses? He needs to continue to follow that and it sounds like that means using savings. You should not be paying for his kids.

As for home schooling - help only your own kids. Who cares if his brats fail.

After all this is over, I would seriously think about whether I wanted to continue my marriage. Your husband is a useless POS.

STOP paying for everything. Tell DH he needs to go to the grocery store. You cannot work, pay to support a family, and homeschool, all while he is doing nothing. 

Sounds like DH is content with staying on the couch. He thinks an employer is going to call him personally? He needs to check his ego. If he can't go back to his "regular" job right now, he needs to find something temporary or open his savings account up. 

STOP helping his kids with homeschooling. He is their dad and that is his responsibility. Also, depending on their age 3rd grade and up, the kids should know how to access everything online and complete their work. Kids are being lazy and are trying to pull a fast one. 

Ask him what is HE contributing to the family? Sounds like he is adding nothing but stress and expenses for you. That's NOT a marriage I would want to be in. 

I was not familiar with the concept of overfunctioning when I was younger, and am guilty of doing it for a long time. My marriage was completely out of balance because I was doing so much of what wasn't my responsibility. I was actually interfering. Instead of allowing space for mistakes, lessons, growth, cause and effect etc. I allowed my H to avoid his responsibilities. This caused me to burnout, and led to resentment in both me and his relatives.

In remarriages, each half is responsible for their own baggage AND holding up their end of the partnership. Right now you're just setting yourself on fire to keep other people warm, and your relationship is out of balance. You need to get back in your own lane and stop covering for your H. Remember, no one is going to thank you for martyring yourself, and those skids NEED interaction with their dad. 

You don't have to make a big deal or have a blow up over this; in fact, being calm, breezy and matter of fact has gotten me much further. Just decide things are going to be different, and move forward. Redirect skids to their dad; put the bills in front of him and tell him "I paid everything last two months, you get this month"; and start making him very uncomfortable. Don't cook, don't clean, don't do laundry. Change starts with you changing your own behavior.

I feel your pain.  And I have been hammering the job search hard for 14mos.  Fortunately my wife's career is doing very well and she is supporting us without us having to raid our retirement resources.

I have been #2 two times for great jobs and I am waiting for notification on one I am in the final stage of getting.  That one went on hold for an extra month during covid and I am 7 days from them reopening that req.  I will resume the hiring process at the point that they paused it due to Covid-19.  I am very hopeful that I will get that job.  Once that happens we are going into living off of my wife's income and investing mine once we retire the increased debt we have added since I last worked.

I cook every nigh, do most of the housework, and I network my ass off for my next career opportunity.

This is getting old for both of us.

But.... we are a team.  She had a 7 year mid career hiatus while we lived overseas for my career.  Our return to the US was so she could re-launch her career and we could put in the last 10-15 years of hard core investing so we can retire entirely debt free and with our retirement nest egg completely funded for our retirement.  

We are flexible though. If it takes longer for me to return to my historical employment and income levels, we will extend our retirement horizon and pare down on our predicted retirement life style. Things will still be okay, just not quite as adventurous as we would prefer.

I have not put all of my eggs in a single basket. An effective job search is often a full time job.

I hope your DH gets his head out and puts in the effort to get back to contributing.

Take care of you.

Unemployment now is 600 a week plus another 300-580 a week depending on which state you live in. He must have been making some serious bank before he was furloughed if that's only a quarter of what he is making on unemployment now. However the scary thing about being furloughed during this is the instability of it. Those unemployment's checks won't last forever and aren't a good future plan to have.