I need an explanation from someone.
Sorry this is so long.
Okay so this started last week. SO and I got into another fight yet again. SO told me that the day he bought the diamond for my engagement ring that the neighbor lady came over and when he told her about the ring she told him to run and that the ring should come with counceling. Me being a female or human for that matter was pretty upset about this comment. I regularly talk with this lady all the time and she's nice to my face. So I told SO that I was going to text her and I did. She responed with I never said run but I did say that you guys both needed counceling. Later that evening he tells me that I need to seek real help like a psychiatrist because of my past. He thinks that the reason why we fight so much is because of past issues from my child hood not from the issues that he has caused in the relationship.
On to the next day. I bring up what SO told me about the neighbor and he denies even saying it. (He does this often enough that I have told SO that we need to record some of our conversations. There is nothing more frustrating then someone telling you something and then denying saying it at all.) He then proceeds to tell me that I need to go and apologize for to the neighbor. WTF! I didn't even do anything. At that point in time I was under the impression that she came over and stuck her nose in my business. I told SO no. That if he thinks that she needs an apology he can do it because he caused all of the drama.
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So SO eventually tells me she never verbally told him to run. How it happened is when she came over he told her about the diamond and then SO asked her, "so you think I should run don't you" and the neighbor ladies reaction was to shrug her shoulders which meant yes in his book and then she made the comment about the ring coming with counceling. I'm sorry but why would he just blurt that out to her, "so you think I should run"?
Fast forward to the night before last. SO and I are talking in the garage about the ring coming with counceling and SO agreed with me that she was referring to me getting therapy.
The folowing day I get home from work and SO tells me that he apologized to the neighbor lady about bringing her into our drama, which I didn't agree with because from what SO had told me she came over and stuck her nose in our business. I told him that I didn't care and that I had no intensions of hanging out with her in the future. He then proceeds to tell me, "so what, where just going to cut ourselves off from all the neighbors?" in a very disappointed voice. I brought up the how she thought that I should get counceling and he said that he wasn't sure what she meant that she could have meant the both of us. What??? I told him that he agreed with me that previuos night about that and he said the same thing again, that he wasn't sure what she meant. But he did make sure to let me know that when he apologized to her that she didn't deny implying that he should run. I asked him if he was this disappointed when she made her gesture and comment about the ring and he said yes at first and then I asked him if he just blew it off because it was the neighbor lady and he told me yes again. I asked him if he stood up to her for disrespecting me and he said yes and I asked him how and apparently he can't remember because it was so long ago. Really SO? You remember stuff I said from 6 months ago and you can't remember what you said to defend your future wife two weeks ago?
So I sent the neighbor lady another text (this lady was someone I thought was my friend) about the apology that SO gave her about bringing he into our drama and told me that SO apologized for lying and she never implied that he should run.
Are you still following this because I'm even having a hard time keeping up.
So I confronted SO about this today and he told me that he never apologized for lying to her. I told him that her story has been consistent and that his changed on almost a daily basis.
I am so confused right now. Apparently he has been discussing our relationship issues with the neighbors and now seeing as how he's only highlighting my flaws throughout the relationship they think he should run and I need therapy. I am so pissed right now. I have put up with his crazy a$$ stalking ex wife who he allowed to disrestpect me and our relationship for almost the first year of our relationship, his crazy out of control kids, he has called the police on me for putting my stuff in the trunk of my car and told them I was stealing his stuff, this list can go on and on and then when the relationship isn't doing good becuase I have reached the breaking point it becomes all me and I need therapy. I am so fed up righ now. He'll be damned lucky to find anybody to put up with as much sh!t as I have.
In a way I do think that I need therapy at this point. Not from my past but from dealing with him. He makes me feel like I am crazy. Not really what I want from a realtionship.
Can anybody help me with this. I am so confused as to what's going on and why it even happened in the first place.