I just need to vent
So I've been working on disengaging for a few months and it is really helping ease alot of my negative feelings. But sometimes certain things pop up and it just boils my blood and I feel like I shouldn't be feeling so angry inside about them, but I do and I hate feeling that way.
Here is the example of yesterday.
So SD16....there has been an odd battle for a while over who is paying for her cell phone, mostly BM pays until she gets in one of her moods and demands DH pays. It would be shut off b/c BM didn't pay and then SD would be telling DH that her mom said he had to pay....so he would when she asked. Keep in mind DH pays a large CS amount and usually caves to BM for lots of 1/2 of whatever......down to things that equal like $6 or $8. *eye roll*. Which is fine except we have SD 1/2 of the time and support her fully 1/2 of the time, so it's not like DH sends CS b/c he doesn't see his kids or do his part financially.
So MIL got tired of the phone being shut off and on and took it upon herself to purchase 2 new phones with paid for phone plans for SD16 AND SD11. Well.....that wasn't good enough for SD16 so she and BM tossed those phones (they weren't iphones) aside and ignored the pre-paid phone plan that MIL was going to continue to pay for and keep renwed. So BM took SD16 out to get her a new iphone and new phone plan............and at that moment my DH said they better never come at him for anything phone related.
Fast forward to now.....it's been about a year or so... SD16 phone is broken b/c she alwasy drops it and doesn't take care of it.. She comes into our room last night and says to DH, "Mom says you have to buy me new a phone OR pay for my phone plan". He just looked puzzled at her and says "what". Then she repeats the statment and ends it, "so will you?" and he responds with "sure". I thought I was going to internally combust. I know this is such a small thing....but it is moments like this where my DH is so afraid of upsetting SD or pissing off BM....that I don't think I can continue to live in this disaster.