Glad to no longer be a stepmom.
Hi everyone. Haven't posted in a while and k don't remember if I told you guys. But in December DH out of nowhere told me he didn't love me anymore and it was over. No warning, no discussion. I moved out with absolutely nothing--no furniture, no bedding, no kitchen stuff...nothing. Just me and my cats.
Come to find out he cheated on me just like most other cops do on their wives. Left me for another woman. Immediately started having this woman over all the time. Convinced SD13 that ts totally ok. They made me the enemy. Despite me raising that kid, and trying to do the best I could for her, I got the boot and he and his girlfriend have taught SD13 that marriage is disposable and it's OK to leave your wife for someone else when you've grown tired of her.
In the beginning I tried to maintain a relationship with SD13 because she wanted to. And I did love her. But it became clear that it just wasn't going to work. So I let it fizzle out.
Now that all the dust has settled...I am so darn HAPPY that he left! No more being controlled. No more being told that the 13 year old will ALLLLWAYS come first. No more watching those two go on "daddy daughter dates" when be NEVER made alone time for me.
Now that the dust has settled I'm ready to date again. And I've decided that I willl NOT date a man with kids! I just won't. At 33 it's hard to find men that don't. But I won't bend. I won't play second fiddle to a mini wife ever again. I also will never date another cop.