Craziest. Idea. Ever.
SO and I have been together 2.5 years. He has SS3.5 with a psycho slut. him and BM slept together just twice; they only knew each other for about a week. everyone in the situation (including BMs own parents) tells us they believe she got pregnant to trap my SO in a relationship. unfortunately for her it didn't work. background: when SS was "conceived" (you'll see the need for the "" later) she already had another kid with another random dude who has nothing to do with her or the child.
everything is going...well, shitty...bc she's a psycho. but my SO is a good dad. However, I don't 100% believe SS is his. BM has slept with so many people...her former roommates (now enemies) and even her own family attest to it.
at the time of SS's conception, birth etc...SO never got a paternity test. he wasn't around BM much then, but assumes SS is his. problem: BM and SO have similar features: white, light hair light eyes etc etc. i think this kid could be anyones.
it doesn't matter anymore whose father SS is. for all intents and purposes, he is my SOs. he has paid child support since birth & had him EOW and 4 weeks/year since birth. even if he wasn't his, he'd continue to act as the father, because he loves him.
HOWEVER. i am SO tempted to get an at-home paternity test and do it myself. it's driving me INSANE. its just a swab in the mouth...get one while SO is sleeping; SS is napping...I want to know if this kid is his...I would NEVER tell him if he wasn't. But I'd consider sending the (99.9-100% accurate) results to BM with a "nice" note indicating if she ever fucked with SO, me or SO's relationship with SS again...her little secret would be out.
Bad idea, right? I've considered it so much in the past, forgot(ish) about it. But THIS brought it back to light. http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Wy9cKefwuMQ/UDAEhuekjqI/AAAAAAAAUrY/0l4HRryipM...
Reading that made me furious.