we're setting a wedding date this week...how to handle?
after 7 months of being angaged and all the ups and downs and work we have both done, we have decided to set a wedding date this week. i am looking for some advice on how to handle it with his kids and lunatic ex (she lost her mind when she found out we got engaged of course). we have had several talks about eloping but i hear from friends,etc that we should really try to include the kids in our wedding plans. i would love doing this but i am still having some issues with his 16yo son. he is very cold and stand offish for the most part (ocassionally he'll open up and get into a conversation with me but not very often). i just know if we sit him down and tell him we finally set a date he may not take the news very well. i know based on what i have heard through sd that he and his mother have had talks of our wedding not happening and that our relationship would end soon, etc.
so not that what he wants will affect our decision to get married but ultimately i want it to be an enjoyable experience for everyone, if that's even possible.
we have thought about informing the ex first of our confirmed date jus tto let her know that it is actually happeneing now and that she will have to start communicating with me on some level regarding the kids. but i just know this will create alot more drama than what is already existing.
any ideas? thanks