going crazy! bm believes my only role as a step parent is as his friend and never to ak him to do anything directly....i dont even know at this point if i am allowed to ask him for help.......she seems to believe step parents are to back off and not be apart of discipline or expectations for responsibility or respect. i really can only say i dont like the way your talking to me but not in an affected way.....i am to some how say it with out any tone. i cant say dont treat me like this. they both the kid and partner blame me for every thing. the 10yr old corrects me non stop and speaks negatively if he even speaks at all. he doesnt look at me or say hello or good night. so unless i am doing what he wants i am crap to him and she doesnt make it end....what can i do? if i want this relationship to work do i lower my personal standard of respect and let her define how i am treated cuz she doesnt agree? she thinks i am just hyper sensitive....how do i get out of this cycle and make a change before i step away fromt he whole situation and start my life over. we are going on 5 years. the kids been suspended has behavioral issues with just about everyone. the school has had enough of his bullying. and franctly so have i. i am not a slave, and not a piece of crap but feel like they think i am ridiculous and insignificant and when i talk to bm she blames me for more than i came to her with. she is in a cycle herself. i want to step out of the cycle and do it different. i am about to leave everything i do to fill the house up and if the pup eats something she shouldn't well lets hope she doesn't die from it. i am so going insane. the attitude and disrespect and constant bsh*! is too much.

any help is greatly appreciated.