A little backstory. MIL is SO's SM. She married his dad when he was 5yrs old. FIL had every other weekend until SO was a teenager than got him full time....SO's brother lived with FIL and MIL for a few months, fought with SM too much and moved back with their BM.
MIL loves to brag about how they (FIL and MIL) raised SO and his brother and spoiled them. But according to SO, they only say them 4 days a month until he was 13 and he moved out when he was 17....Whatever, my point is that MIL knows what it's like to be a SM and how hard it can be. At least one would think that.
From the beginning of my and SO's relationship 6yrs ago, I told SO that it felt like MIL knew more about our lives and Skids lives than she should. Like someone other than us was feeding her information. I asked him if MIL and BM (Skids BM) were in contact. He denied it and was upset that I would even suggest it.
In the beginning, it didn't really bother me. My own parents occasionally run into my EXH and they'll tell me "Hey, we ran into EXH the other day. He's up to XYZ."
But as the years went on, and I could tell for a fact she is communicating with someone in the Skids house, MIL's behavior gets worse. MIL talks NONSTOP about BM when she is around me. And not in a positive way. She bad mouths her, says she is a shitty mom, and has even said she wishes she would die. She also says really nasty things to me too about my relationship with SO...Like SO will never really love me unless I love his EXSKids.....By the way, she is always drunk.
Last year, I told SO that I was only going to his parents' house for holidays. And that was for him and Skids. I was done taking MIL's disrespect and I was sick of hearing about how horrible BM was. I KNOW how horrible she is. I live this shit every day.
Well, come to find out a couple of weeks ago that BM and MIL have been in constant phone contact since BM and SO split. I told SO, "That's it, I'm done with MIL. I will not ever go over her house again"
If MIL wants to continue a relationship with BM, that's her choice. My problem with is it
1. Be honest, tell SO the truth
2. If MIL is so friendly with BM, why is she always shit talking about her
3. If she is being two faced to BM, I know she is doing the same to me and feeding BM info about me
4. What's her end game. I mean, what is MIL getting out of this behavior? BM might not be the brightest tool in the shed, but if she know half of the horrible things MIL has said about her in the last 6yrs, she would be seriously pissed....Again, MIL has said on more than one occasion she wishes BM would die.
I would have so much more respect for MIL if she would have just said, "Hey, SO you brought BM into our family and I'm still going to have a relationship with her regardless of what happening between you two" At least that way everyone knows where everyone else stands.
I just wish I knew what she really is up to. Why play me and BM like that? What does MIL have to gain from it?
It's best you stay away from both of them MIL & BM. Let DH deals with those crazy drama. What's her end game? She just wants to create trouble and laugh about. control, control, control. She knows you will never repeat those stuffs back to BM so nothing to worry about...even if you do...she will deny it and you will be a lying B*tch. Beside she can throw it in your face that i do have a better relationship with BM than you for the benefit of the children...typical narcissistic personality. My SD is exactly like that.
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A little backstory. MIL is
A little backstory. MIL is SO's SM. She married his dad when he was 5yrs old. FIL had every other weekend until SO was a teenager than got him full time....SO's brother lived with FIL and MIL for a few months, fought with SM too much and moved back with their BM.
MIL loves to brag about how they (FIL and MIL) raised SO and his brother and spoiled them. But according to SO, they only say them 4 days a month until he was 13 and he moved out when he was 17....Whatever, my point is that MIL knows what it's like to be a SM and how hard it can be. At least one would think that.
From the beginning of my and SO's relationship 6yrs ago, I told SO that it felt like MIL knew more about our lives and Skids lives than she should. Like someone other than us was feeding her information. I asked him if MIL and BM (Skids BM) were in contact. He denied it and was upset that I would even suggest it.
In the beginning, it didn't really bother me. My own parents occasionally run into my EXH and they'll tell me "Hey, we ran into EXH the other day. He's up to XYZ."
But as the years went on, and I could tell for a fact she is communicating with someone in the Skids house, MIL's behavior gets worse. MIL talks NONSTOP about BM when she is around me. And not in a positive way. She bad mouths her, says she is a shitty mom, and has even said she wishes she would die. She also says really nasty things to me too about my relationship with SO...Like SO will never really love me unless I love his EXSKids.....By the way, she is always drunk.
Last year, I told SO that I was only going to his parents' house for holidays. And that was for him and Skids. I was done taking MIL's disrespect and I was sick of hearing about how horrible BM was. I KNOW how horrible she is. I live this shit every day.
Well, come to find out a couple of weeks ago that BM and MIL have been in constant phone contact since BM and SO split. I told SO, "That's it, I'm done with MIL. I will not ever go over her house again"
If MIL wants to continue a relationship with BM, that's her choice. My problem with is it
1. Be honest, tell SO the truth
2. If MIL is so friendly with BM, why is she always shit talking about her
3. If she is being two faced to BM, I know she is doing the same to me and feeding BM info about me
4. What's her end game. I mean, what is MIL getting out of this behavior? BM might not be the brightest tool in the shed, but if she know half of the horrible things MIL has said about her in the last 6yrs, she would be seriously pissed....Again, MIL has said on more than one occasion she wishes BM would die.
I would have so much more respect for MIL if she would have just said, "Hey, SO you brought BM into our family and I'm still going to have a relationship with her regardless of what happening between you two" At least that way everyone knows where everyone else stands.
I just wish I knew what she really is up to. Why play me and BM like that? What does MIL have to gain from it?
It's best you stay away from
It's best you stay away from both of them MIL & BM. Let DH deals with those crazy drama. What's her end game? She just wants to create trouble and laugh about. control, control, control. She knows you will never repeat those stuffs back to BM so nothing to worry about...even if you do...she will deny it and you will be a lying B*tch. Beside she can throw it in your face that i do have a better relationship with BM than you for the benefit of the children...typical narcissistic personality. My SD is exactly like that.
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She's just a drunk. Who
She's just a drunk. Who knows why drunks do the shit they do?
Doesn't sound like she adds anything positive to your life. Remove her.
Yes, she's a drunk and so is
Yes, she's a drunk and so is FIL. Really sad