Resent this situation
Basically my love and kindness over the past 24 years towards YSD 26 was in vein. Still loves to be centre of attention with DH while I’m treated like an outsider. She’s also a bossy mini wife to DH and very good at manipulating him for money which she desperately needs right now.
I had to explain to DH how i’m feeling about the whole situation with her and how she treats me because it’s making me miserable. He seemed to take on board what I said, but here we are a few weeks later, and she’s visiting more regularly. Prior to this they used to meet up at the restaurant. Now she's suggesting meeting DH at our home before going off to our local restaurant together. After the meal she’s coming back to our home to spend the rest of the afternoon with DH. I’m having to leave my home for most of the day to avoid her and I resent it. I also feel that I can’t do this forever. Today it’s also crossed my mind that she’s probably more than happy I'm not around as she gets DH all to herself so maybe I’m not doing myself any favours after all by leaving my home every time.
I do realise that she is his daughter and it’s only natural that he wants her to visit. But I’m so uncomfortable when she’s around it’s really making me unhappy. I’m now constantly questioning my future with my husband even though we’re generally happy apart from this situation with her. But how can a marriage survive longterm when you dislike their offspring this much!
Please can others tell me how they have managed to stay sane in similar situations?