Any advice on difficulties with 24 yr old SDaughter with BPD living at home?
My wife and I have been married for 16 years, together for 17. She has two daughters, an 18 yr old SDaughter who's on the spectrum and identifies as a male and a 24 year old SDaughter that has a Borderline Personality Disorder. My wife and I have a 15 year old son and he has not been diagnosed with any mental disorders and leads a very normal life for a teenage boy and is a good kid. I'm having such a difficult time with the 24 yr old SD because if anyone reading this knows about BPD, it can be horrific in many ways. I'm at my witts end and I love my wife very much, however I'm questioning divorce just to get away from the negativity from the oldest SD. My son has witnessed so many outbursts from her and I worry for his well being in having to see so much drama in our home. Before I began to have knowledge of BPD, I actually thougtht she might be posessed. I've thought about calling Adult Protective Services to see if they can help my wife and I manage the oldest SD as she is so out of control. We've spent years in and out of therapy, she's been in and out of psychiatric hospitals, self harm, accusing people of sexually assaulting her when they never did, seeks attention in any possible way that she can and just drains the life out of everyone in the house. She refuses to work and is so lazy. Because the oldest SD tests me and pushes me to my limits, my wife no longer allows me to approach the oldest SD to try and resolve an issue, instead I have to report to my wife about my concerns so that she alone can address them with her oldest SD. I'm very old school and was raised in a strict home so I see things and act differently than my wife does so maybe I'm too hard on them, I don't know. I have made great attempts to be peaceful and understanding but it doesn't work. I'm just at the end of my rope and what hurts me the most is that my biological son sees all of this, I'm so unhappy.