My therapist thinks DW has BPD
Over the last few weeks, thinks have been pretty bad at home. It all started when DW decided to move SD20 (Porky) back into our house, after SD was separated from the Army for "unspecified" medical reasons. We had huge rows over this, which I've documented in prior posts. Porky and her husband Taco eventually decided to move in with Porky's grandmother, after some ugliness related to the move-in process. DW had said "if they leave, I leave," but ended up backing down, and has not left the house. After a week, Porky & Taco are still living with Porky's grandmother, aka BitchMotherInLaw.
I started seeing a therapist after all of this started, and based on what I related to her, she thinks that DW may have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). This would explain a lot, and I definitely see some of the traits (extreme reactions over fear of me abandoning her, stormy relationships, spending sprees,binge eating, feelings of worthlessness, etc.). Some of the traits I don't see, such as physical violence or self-injury. However, on balance, I think that the therapist may be right, and this would go a long way towards explaining DW's intense need for Porky's companionship and approval.
My question for the group is this: for those who have dealt with BPD, what did you do? Did you find any approaches that helped? For the longest time, I thought that most of our problems were my fault, for not being supportive enough of DW, but now I'm starting to think that it runs a lot deeper than that.