OH boy....here we go Part 1
Flippin pinch me, is this really happening??
Background....and beware, we're headed into Jerry Springer territory here.
DH is the product of both his parents' 2nd marriage.
DH mom/MIL had two kids from the first marriage (Sis1 and Bro1). The dad up and left with his secretary and moved 1000 miles away. Sis1 and Bro1 never see him or their new half brothers/sisters. MIL gets CS
DH dad/FIL had three kids from the first marriage (TX1,TX2,TX3). They divorce and the mom takes all kids to Texas. FIL pays CS and rarely sees the kids.
MIL and FIL get married and have two more kids, DH and pBIL (prison BIL).
DH is half-brother to Sis1,Bro1,and TX1,2,3. DH is full brother to pBIL
MIL/FIL/DH/pBIL/Sis1/Bro1 grow up together. We all still live in the same area except Bro1 who lives 2 hours away.
TX1 is a felon, spent many years in prison. 8 years ago, during the brief time he was NOT incarcerated, he managed to knock up a very trashy woman (TXBM) who had already lost custody of her three previous kids and DCFS was going to take custody of the baby after it was born.
Here come MIL/FIL to the rescue and they adopt the baby. They don't tell ANY family until it's all settled and TXBM had given birth. We go see the baby and meet TXBM and white trash doesn't even BEGIN to describe this woman. DH/pBIL/Sis1/Bro1 are pissed that they did this behind everyone's back and WTH are they doing raising a newborn when they're in their 60s???? FIL is retired, MIL is still working. FIL does most of the caring for the baby. When conversing with DH, I refer to his parents as GrandmaMom and GrandpaDad.
I wanted to take that baby and run home with her, but DH and I weren't even engaged yet and the whole adoption thing was a done deal.
Life goes on....babygirl (BG) is seen at family events. She is obviously missing milestones and is growing up in front of a screen. Then a series of events......TX1 dies in prison. TXBM drops off the face of the earth, MIL/FIL were in touch on FB before she disappeared. FIL gets very sick. Multiple hospital stays. MIL loses her job. FIL cannot leave the house and does not attend family events anymore.
Xmas 2019, MIL is verbally and borderline physically abusive to BG in front of 20 family members. We were all horrified. At my urging, we start taking BG about one weekend a month, we are Aunt DarkStar and Uncle DH. Then Covid hits. Holiday family events start taking place again, but the weekend visits do not. BG is in preschool so I figure she's doing OK. During family events BG is a whiny, tantrumy mess. Her speech is delayed and we all know about kids that are 5+ years old and still in diapers! FIL is infirm, has a home health aide 3 times a week and MIL does everything else for him.
3 days ago, DH gets a call, MIL is in the ICU. Insulin is off the charts, looks like diabetes type 1. Turns out MIL has been sick for a couple of weeks, BG had not been at school for almost a week. MIL calls 911 on Tuesday, in full diabetic ketoacidosis almost comatose. DH gets a phone call from FIL home health aide about taking BG, since we are first emergency contacts for her. So off we go, pick up BG. MIL/FIL house is a MESS. Cat pee smell everywhere. Dirty pullups in BG's room, no clean clothes. Yep, 7 years old and BG still wears pullups to bed. I am supposed to return to the office this week, so I make arrangements to work from home. BG is in first grade, but her school is an hour away from us, so I am trying to keep her occupied while I work from home this week.
As of today MIL is still in the hospital, but out of the ICU. Her insulin and A1C levels are still not under control. FIL is not doing well, even though he has limited time by himself. He lost track of the days and his meds are all off. pBIL is looking after FIL, but says that he is confused and not making much sense. There is no WAY that they can take care of a little girl, the doctors said MIL needs home health care for a little while, and they can't decide if she has type 1 or 2 diabetes so we are waiting on an appointment with an endocrinologist next week.
Oof, this is taking forever. Part 2 will be forthcoming.