I wish I could have a cocktail or THREE right now!
BG: Married for 3 years, 5 weeks pregnant, my 3 kids live with us as well as a stepson (SS). Bio-mom (BM) is a shit-stirrer and she is successfully turning my SS into one as well...no joke. It's been utter hell since she decided to come back into the picture 2 years ago. In-laws were great until about 3 months ago...they even took in my kids as their own grandchildren...never any differences made between blood-related or not.
Long story short...BM has poisoned SS mind against me and he now makes up crap about me (not that I abuse him, but certainly not nice things). He constantly mopes around saying how unhappy he is and how he wants to go lives with his mom, yada, yada, yada. However, he can never give anyone a valid or believable reason for his unhappiness.
MIL/FIL and BIL/SIS suddenly only care about SS and his happiness. They told me and my husband that we don't do enough for SS. Heck, he's treated just like the other 3 in our home. What gets me is that for years I have been praised by the in-laws for doing so much for SS as his own mother never took an interest in him. Before she came back into the picture he NEVER had a complaint about me. No, I'm not the same with him as I used to be and who would be after 2 years of constant disrespect from a kid...but I'm also not mean. I still make sure that all of his needs are met. I just refer him to his father for most things to avoid any additional drama.
No longer do the in-laws ask about my children or attempt to see them. My 6 year old's birthday was on the 30th and it was not even acknowledged by the in-laws.They don't come to soccer games or cheer competitions, but they DO make sure they come to SS events.
This really pisses me off. We haven't told them about this baby and we are debating if we will or not. We're both ready to tell all of them to kiss our butts!
As my husband was getting ready for work this morning, he told me about a phone conversation he had with BIL yesterday. Why he waited this long to tell me, I have no clue! Basically, it consisted of regurgitated BS from other conversations but BIL added this: If I were you, I'd tell her that if SS goes to live with his mom that you'd make sure no one in that house would be happy again. ARE YOU F*CKING KIDDING?! I asked DH what he said to that. He said he told BIL that he doesn't think that I'm the problem.
I told DH that I wish I could have heard the conversation, but threats/ultimatums are NEVER EVER the way to go with me! I felt the need to throw that in there just in case he decided to ever take BIL's advice. I also told DH that from now on, if the in-laws have something to say to me, they need to grow a sac and call me directly.