Question, how many of us hate being around in-laws?
Long story short, I limit how much I am around my in-laws. They usually are so fake for instance, they talk about how much they accept the people who marry into their family yet their actions are totally contrary. Yesterday, I attended a cookout given for my nephew-in-law, my brother-in-law's son. Yesterday was the first time I had met my sister-in-law, my husband's brother's wife. She came to me made a comment about how fake my in-laws are in saying they love their in-laws and how they are a part of their family; she also commented that they were not better than anyone and used profanity which showed me that she really was bothered, I was flabbergasted. I thought I was the only in-law that felt that way. I had noticed that over the course of the six years my husband and I were together, she was never at any family functions. I think that the only reason she was there was because the cookout was in honor of her son who is going away to divinity school, he is going to study to be a pastor. I never go to any my husband's family functions because I too over the years have grown so tired of the snide remarks and fake smiles and hugs. Well during one of the many speeches and well wishes to my NIL from one of my in-laws, a comment was made to single out all the in-laws saying, "I know some of the in-laws think we are too close but my family and I are tight knit." But I know from experience that is BS because I see how they have cliques in their family and that same chic that made that comment won't let her mother live with her and her mother is at my MIL's house driving her crazy and won't help pay her share of the household bills but we won't go there because they are perfect remember. There were certain other daggers thrown at me personally off and on throughout the day once these certain in-laws arrived. I know that I am hated by them because number one I won't bow down and kiss their a***es, two I am a very fashion conscious person so I always dress nicely and I am attractive and shapely to boot. Not tooting my own horn but this is what has been conveyed to me by other sources within the family. When I was told this I couldn't believe it, these are suppose to be the "holy-roller" type of people. I understand where all the snide remarks come from now! Anyway, I am not one of those type of people that have to fit in with in-laws, I couldn't give a sh** less! I am just sick of these people's BS and have made a choice at this point to stay way from them. Any thoughts? How have your experiences with your in-laws been?