Transgender stepson having a hard time adapting to new country
This is my first post, and I have a bit of a hard time knowing where to start everything, as there's soooo much going on *dash1*
So, earlier this year my partner's 13 year old son came to live with us from the US. We live in Germany.
He's been living in the US up until now with his maternal grandparents, as his mom couldn't handle it.
He's been separated from his father since he was 6 years old. He is a really nice kid, but he's dealing with some personal issues.
He identifies as he/him, but is born as a girl. He is very drawn to the darkness of humans, and is talking a lot about death, darkness, destroying things, etc. I understand that this is a result from a traumatized childhood. Since his mom is still living in the US, we now have him full time. So it went from just us to full time parent/step-mom. He seems highly demotivated to do anything. He's showing some unsettling ways around other people and animals. And I'm honestly just worried about what to do, what to think, what to say and what the future will hold.
I know this might be a very unique case, but if someone has any advice/stories/ANYTHING, it's so appreciated.
I'm getting rather desperate here, and I'm not even sure of what I need advice with, as it's just starting to look more and more like a burnout from my side, and I feel so bad about not being more understanding and patient with this complex situation.