Anyone's SO have shared custody with skids, but it's every few months? Need advice
FH and BM share custody of SD3. FH gets six months and BM gets 6. SD2 is leaving soon to be with her mother and stepdad again soon back to Germany. This will be Sd3 second time she's leaving FH. The first time was hard but since she was only 2 she wasn't so expressive and didn't know what was going on. Now she's 3 and talks a lot! She's back and forth a lot about how she feels. She says she wants to live with FH and now she wants to go back to BM. I told FH not to take it personally. Children are selfish. They want what they want.
Anyways, in the CO, if the parent is in the same area visiting they can have 4days with the child for each moth they are there. SD3 last day with FH is 5/28, but BM came early, 5/8. She requested she have SD3 for Mother's Day. They agreed and FH also gave that weekend to BM as her 4 day visit. Well since she came back, SD3 has told FH she doesn't love him and wants to live with BM and BMH. I know this is affecting FH because time is getting close to his last days. Sometimes idk what to tell him. Idk how to help him. I try to say "she's just 3. You know how BM is. Always trying to buy her love. Showing her new things they bought her. They need her to want to come back home with them so there's no problems. She does love her mom and she should, but she loves you too. She's just being a brat".
Also, BM text FH the next day and said "my mom ran into someone's car and SD3 and I were in the car. SD3 got a scratch on her neck and I took her to the dr. She'll be fine. The mark should go away". FH told BM he was concerned that he's just now finding this out and he would like documents from the dr. All she replied back was "I will get you the documents" umm ok?? FH said he was going to talk to her about it during the drop off, but that didn't happen because SD3 was crying hysterically that she didn't want to go and all BM did was comfort her and told her she was sorry. Whatever..she's annoying