Bio mom issues
SD9 has a poor relationship with her bio mom. DH works a sporadic schedule away from home, leaving her to stay with her Mom while he is working. As soon as DH comes home from work, SD comes to stay with us and rarely hears from her Mom. She could call her Mom 3 days in a row and never reach her. Her mom makes promises and never keeps them. And when SD does spend time with her mom, they rarely spend "quality" time together, as SD tells me her mom won't stop looking at her phone long enough to do anything with her. SD has cried to me saying her mom just doesn't care about her and I try to tell her of course she does. Lately, SD has become very argumentative. She does not listen to what we say or the suggestions we make to her, she complains about what's cooked for supper every. single. night, even if it's her favorite meal, she is continuously picking out the flaws in my bio children, belittling them and praising up her own abilities. She always wants to be the center of attention and will create drama when she is not. I'm so incredibly stressed out because she has the ability to ruin an activity if she doesn't get her way. I strongly feel that she feels the lack of connection with her mom and takes that out on my children because they have a close connection with me. While I do everything I can for her, she gives me credit for none of it. She gives her father the credit for everything. I do not know what to do for this child. I have spent quality time alone with her, which she seems to enjoy. We have had some personal discussions about puberty and things and she knows I understand what she's going through in that regard. But she still pushes me away and undermines the things I can do, and praises up her mom (who literally does bare minimum and maybe even less). I'm just at a loss. I hate how she makes my kids feel, but if it's jealousy over the relationship they have with me, then my heart breaks for her. I'm not sure what to do.