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Could you live with BM?

CompletelyPuzzled's picture

I saw this article today.  I found it so bizarre.  Could any of you live with BM in a situation like this?

 

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/friendly-exes-self-quarantine-together-a...

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hereiam's picture

Nope.

I could see wanting to get out of NYC but other arrangements besides all living together would have to be made.

Aunt Agatha's picture

Granted the BM here is bat sh!t crazy, and I personally am not a huge fan of having indefinite roommates, much less that many kids! around for days on end with no end in sight.

 But hey, I'm glad Camp Happy Family works for them.

These are extraordinary times. 

Winterglow's picture

I wonder how long they've been doing this and how much longer it will last? Sounds a bit like early days euphoria...

Ursula's picture

I think it could be nice for those who can get along.  However, it would never work in my situation.  

ESMOD's picture

Depending upon people and circumstances.. I guess some people might be able to do this.  Not me.. but some people vacation together etc.. it's not a majority.. but if it works for them great.

nengooseus's picture

So no.  Definitely not.

Not that I wouldn't be open to it if I wasn't dealing with evil (HCBM) and idiocy (my XH).  If I dealt with rational people, I suppose it would be lovely.

ndc's picture

BM here is sane and we are amicable, but no how, no way would I be living with her.  If DH wanted to do something like this (he wouldn't!), I'd take DD and move in with my parents.

justmakingthebest's picture

I could see doing this with my ex and his wife, if it came down to it. BM's, either of them, Hell to the NO!

Livingoutloud's picture

I guess in emergency my exDH and DD's SM with their kids could stay with us. They are sane. And we get along. So maybe very short time is ok. 

BM no. She was homeless at some point (lived with adult SD but was kicked out due to assaulting SD) and we found out she was asking around where we live (We live couple of hours away now). Omg. DH was so scared he put baseball bat at the door and had local police department on speed dial. So the answer is no 

Thumper's picture

Yuppers....

I would see stuff that looks very familiar on eBay. Since Pawn shops are shut down.

Kes's picture

Sounds like the family in the article are still in the honeymoon period when everyone is on best behaviour - I bet it doesn't last more than a few weeks!   And no, I would not live with NPD BM - I'd rather live with Donald Trump.  

Crspyew's picture

But then again she's dead,

That said, as much as I loathed BM during her life time, if some apocalyptic event required her to shelter with DH & I I'd allow it.  But only on my terms.  My husband already suggested his adult skids may need to relocate to our cabin.  Sure DH let me know when the tents and portapotties are set up cause they are not going in if we aren't there.

HowLongIsForever's picture

I couldn't do it with our BM.  If there was a completely different BM (at least tolerable) in our scenario I wouldn't automatically be opposed. 

But with this one? Hard pass.

strugglingSM's picture

Not in a million years. Also, clearly these families have a lot of money, so they can afford a big house to stay in. One question and one observation - 1) how is one son still at boarding school? I figured all boarding schools would be closed by now. 2) I bet that Vermont town was not happy to see a bunch of New Yorkers move in. Other New England states were trying to ban New Yorkers from entering. 

tog redux's picture

Even other towns in upstate NY are begging NYC people not to come to their vacation homes to get away from the outbreak in NYC. They don't have the health care or grocery supplies to support extra people staying in their area.

 

Kes's picture

We have got the same thing going on in England.  People are particularly being asked not to go to their holiday homes in Cornwall (lots of Londoners have them) due to Cornwall being relatively low numbers of infection and London being a hotspot.  

shamds's picture

most  divorces are nasty so this set up just doesn’t work and would be a total sex intimacy killer for sure... i’m conviNced my husband would cut his own d*ck off if he were made to live in a house with exwife, her current husband who she cheated with before hubby separated from her and hubbys 3 kids. 

Sandybeaches's picture

I saw this article also.  Be sure to click on the comments.  I read through many and did not see one that had anything positive to say about that arrangement. 

These people are looking for a headline and here is their first one.  I can't wait for the followup as the President keeps extending the shut down.  It won't be so cute day 45.  

First look at all the rules that were broken here.  If not Official rules moral rules.  No unnecessary travel.  No gathering in groups. These people are not all related and would be better served by staying home forgoing visitation for now and Face time or skyping until this thing is over.

This is totally bizarre!! You are ex's for a reason and if you could do this cute little extended family deal, you should have stayed married!!!  Check back in on these nuts in a week.

 

Thumper's picture

No I couldnt live with bm. Ewwwww..MY dh couldnt either lol

About flying during this pandemic. I could NEVER put a kid on a plane now., not for 50minutes and not for 7 hours.  I honestly hope those parents who are faced with this awful situation, have good heads on their shoulders and step back a little, think about how they can offer a reasonable solution. 

 

 

 

Jcksjj's picture

No. I honestly don't understand how so many people think these things are wonderful because it icks me out. And honestly I dont think its setting a good example for the kids - I see people teaching kids to not set boundaries (I highly doubt everyone feels totally comfortable), not people cooperating and getting along. There's a line in between there that seems to be crossed a lot for "coparenting."

Maxwell09's picture

I would live with her long enough to frame her for attempting to murder me so she can go to jail and be with her people.....

HAHAHA IF ONLY LIFE WAS A LIFETIME MOVIE----but no, nothing amount of money in this world or heavenly divination is worth living with that creature for even two weeks of quarantine.