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Since when does being sick get you out of being in trouble?

ashes54's picture

Just a quick vent...

So my SD11 is grounded for refusing to do her chores pretty much every day. Her favorite excuse is "I forgot" even though it is something she is told to do every day.

Last night I officially lost it and told my DH he needs to be home to take care of his children because I can't do it anymore. I shouldn't be angry every day because of them but I am, and I need a serious break from it all before I lose my mind.

Anyway, today she gets sent home from school for throwing up, but she's seemed fine all day since she's been home. She called and asked her dad if she could watch tv (because he must have told her not to bother me at all today), and he said yes. I'm mad. I understand she is sick but why does that mean she should get to watch tv if she's still grounded? Since when does being sick get you out of trouble? That definitely wasn't how it was when I was a kid. If I got sent home from school or stayed home sick from school, I stayed in bed. And I didn't even have to be in trouble for that to be the case. If I was too sick to be at school, then I should be in bed resting, period.

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tog redux's picture

I could watch TV if I was sick, but back in the day "grounding" meant I couldn't leave the house other than with my parents or to school, and they wouldn't have lifted THAT just because I was sick.

Just typical permissive, inconsistent parenting.

ashes54's picture

In our house, grounded includes no tv along with not going anywhere other than to school.

But yes, inconsistent parenting... or perhaps he forgot... it must run in the family LoL

It's just frustrating for me when she literally just got grounded yesterday and today she's home watching tv and seems completely fine. I'd much rather come here and vent than try to "correct" anything.

NotThatTypical's picture

Did dad even remember she is grounded? Sounds like you grounded her (not dad) and then said "I'm done". Dad is now in charge, not his punishment, not his responsability to follow through. Not a good message in the long run but if dad does step up he'll have to figure out what he's going to do about her not complying with rules.

ashes54's picture

I'm not sure if he forgot or just decided that since she's sick he'd let her watch tv or yes maybe even decided to change things all around since I no longer want to have any responsibility when it comes to his kids and it's easier for him to let them do as they please. As much as I wanted to tell her to turn it off, I said absolutely nothing, not my place. That alone was a big step for me.